Should You Live Together Before Marriage?

June 30, 2008 12:28 AM by Rich Santos |  COMMENTS

Ever since my sisters and I were old enough to consider, we were subject to speeches from my traditional parents who could not bear to see us moving in with significant others before getting married. Their rationale was that it was just a way to off getting married.

My older sister lived with her boyfriend for over two years in San Francisco before moving back East when they decided to get married. The two are happily married with two baby daughters.

My little sister had a tougher experience. She lived with her boyfriend for three years, met someone whimsically during a business trip and returned to New York resigned to change her life. She informed her boyfriend that they needed to break up and that she was thinking about a career change and maybe even moving to another country.

The ensuing months were definitely tense. In New York City, where nearly every apartment is occupied, you can’t just move out of an apartment unless you find someone to take your spot. This is also contingent on whether you can find a new place. So, my sister and her boyfriend decided that the most practical thing to do would be to honor the lease.

The next three months my sister and her boyfriend took turns sleeping on the couch. There were also times when my sister met people out and wanted to bring them home, but knew that it would be a bad idea.

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How Do Threesomes Happen?

June 6, 2008 1:20 AM by Rich Santos |  COMMENTS

Is a threesome something that you just fall into and let take you for a ride? Or is it something that requires long-term work and persuasion—like a political campaign?

Neither of my “chances” for a threesome really worked out:

One time we were hosting a party and two girls who didn’t seem to know anyone showed up. They were in the kitchen with us riling us up by telling us that they kissed from time to time. We tried the oldest one in the book: reverse psychology (which historically never worked)

“Yeah, right. You guys don’t kiss. No way. You’re all talk.”

That’s all it took. Before we knew it, the girls were kissing.

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Which of the Sex and The City Girls is the Most Dateable?

May 29, 2008 12:00 AM by Rich Santos |  COMMENTS

OK, I’ve almost gotten the Sex and the City girls out of my system. So maybe I don’t hate the girls from Sex and the City that much. Another exercise I did was sitting down and really thinking: which girl from Sex and the City would I most like to date? I’ve ranked them with explanations:

Least Compatible: Miranda

This is shallow, but I find Miranda to be the least physically attractive of the girls. I think she is a beautiful woman but I always picture with short hair, which doesn’t appeal to me. I don’t like seriousness and expectations. I need a wide space to roam—and make mistakes. No-nonsense doesn’t work for me. My mom would argue with me though: she is desperate for someone to come into my life and get me to start using my checkbook register. This lucky girl would have to help me find my check register first though.

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