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Dear Cubicle Coach: My team recently got a new director who has us do bonding and trust-building exercises, like telling revealing personal stories. I feel uncomfortable doing this. How do I bow out without looking like a whiner?

Dear Teammate: Is the rest of the team as squeamish about this as you are? Maybe a few of you should meet with the boss and say that, thanks to all those exercises, you trust her enough to tell her you're uncomfortable with this stuff. If she persists, come to the next session armed with some "revealing" stories that are just personal enough. The time you dropped the entire tray of birthday cupcakes with a character-stunting crash in second grade: good. Winding up naked with the Domino's delivery guy last week: not so good.

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