My Husband is TOO Sexual!

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A reader in her 50s has written in with the following complaint: Her husband is constantly in the mood for sex, but in addition to wanting sex daily, his requests have becoming continually more demanding: wanting her to walk around the house naked, sending nude pictures to his camera phone, frequent masturbation in front of him, and phone sex complete with ultra dirty talk. (All while he is at work.) She is not that into it, but does it for his benefit.

Now all of these requests on their own may be fine for some couples, but if one partner is overwhelmed by this, it can have a tremendous effect on a relationship. It is normal to want to spice things up, but if you constantly have to one up the last attempt, it can be stressful and even uncomfortable. And it is important for couples to talk about where and when they cross the line and start getting into emotionally or physically uncomfortable territory. It is possible that at the moment this couple has different degrees of desire or that there is something else going on and he is trying to compensate through sex. It is imperative that we talk to our partners and be honest about our needs (or lack thereof). If it seems that this is an unmanageable task, you may have to call in for reinforcements, like a sex/marital therapist.

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