You're Not Going to Find Love With That Dating Checklist

Thanks for killing my romance dreams.

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My dream relationship is to find a super good looking man, who drives a motorcycle and owns multiple deli meat factories internationally. According to psychology professoran and author Dr. Ty Tashiro, I'm probably never going to find love, because all of my relationship needs are materialistic (Has this guy never had a killer turkey club?).

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Instead of seeking out materialistic factors in a relationship (ie: artisan prosciutto slices), we should focus on key personality traits, like "courteous, flexible, trusting, good-natured, tolerant," qualities more associated with "agreeableness," according to Dr. Ty Tashiro, who was interviewed by the Daily Mail.

Also, steer away from novelty qualities (goodbye motorcycles!) their appeal wears off faster than more stable traits. According to studies, "'liking' declines at a rate of three per cent per year while 'lusting' deteriorates at a faster eight per cent." It is important to keep a balance between "liking" and "lusting."

As for money? It makes a "difference at the low end of the income scale, which has the highest divorce rater in the first ten years of marriage." Yet, after $75,000, there is no link between higher levels of pyschological well-being and more wealth.

Moral of the story: Keep your dating checklist to a three-wish minimum, focused on personality traits, and take out the "no vegetarians allowed" part in your Tinder profile. And if that sounds too involved, try this.

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