"These conversations should be had before people are married," says Marc Lowlicht, president, wealth management division at New York's Further Lane Asset Management. You need to know each other's opinions on debt and decide who will handle what. "People look at money from a financial standpoint, but these are emotional conversations."
"I listen to guys talk about money, and they don't have it figured out, either," says Manisha Thakor, author of Get Financially Naked: How to Talk Money With Your Honey. Hire a financial adviser you can pay on an hourly basis to go over everything so you understand it backward and forward. If your man objects, point out that women typically live longer than men, so you need to be prepared.