Would Your Guy Cheat? Would You Know?
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Redbook: And you really loved your wife at this time?
Mark: I really loved her and was very happy. But there are always urges. And I always take advantage of them.
James: The male mind's like a computer server: You can partition it. You'll say, "Yeah, I was in love, but I still needed it."
Nathan: Who doesn't crave excitement, the thrill of the chase, the power of getting it? Any man who says that he doesn't is a liar.
Sins of the Fathers
Redbook: Are you your fathers' sons?
James: My father was a rather voracious womanizer, from what I understand. In fact, my mother was actually one of his affairs gone awry. He was previously married, cheated on his first wife with my mom and ended up leaving her for my mom. Of course, he then proceeded to cheat on my mom. He ended up leaving my mom and remarrying his first wife. Strangely, I cannot explain this. I do feel a certain hereditary responsibility to be like Dad, though I never really knew the cad.
Sal: My father was unfaithful; so were a number of my male relatives perhaps it's my Mediterranean blood. I also spent a lot of time in Europe, where the attitude on cheating is much more relaxed, more along the lines of "Don't ask, don't tell."
Mark: I have no solid proof that my dad cheated, but as a teenager I was old enough to figure out what was going on when my father would drop me off at one of my ball games but could never stay and watch because he had to "drop some paperwork off at the office." There's a long history of this in my family. All of the men in my family, back to my great-grandfather, have been divorced. They all remarried younger women. Growing up with this made me think I wouldn't get married, because it would be doomed to fail. I guess I was destined to fail at this.
Nathan: I have to say that my parents had an amazing relationship. My dad adored my mom, and she worshiped the ground he walked on. [Applause] I won't blame either of them for my warped actions.