Would You Kiss a Girl?
By Dana Hudepohl
What's It Like?
"I was buzzed, having fun, and letting go."
—Anna, 28, student
I never thought about kissing another woman before I moved to America from my native Russia three years ago. But people here are more open-minded, and everything is about sex — TV, music, clubs — so a lot of my views have changed.
The first time I kissed a woman was last year at a club. While hanging out by the bar, my friend and I shared a long, passionate French kiss, with touching, that lasted a minute or two. We are party girls, and I think it was the atmosphere: There was all this music, the lights and energy were building up, and I was buzzed, having fun, and letting go. When you're wasted, you feel like being with a guy and having sex, and if you don't have a guy next to you, you kiss a girl instead. It's also a game; you act wild and mischievous to attract guys' attention.
I enjoyed it, and every time I get drunk at a club, I feel like kissing her again — and do. We've probably kissed four times. It's not at all like kissing a guy. A girl is more sensitive, more soft, more gentle. Plus, a girl knows what a girl likes, and she doesn't get clumsy or nervous like a lot of guys I've kissed.
But there are no feelings attached, and no desire to have sex with her or get into a relationship. It's just a kiss, just for fun, nothing serious. I have never wanted to kiss her when we're not partying. I've kissed at least five different guys since my first kiss with her. I feel much more pleasure and satisfaction when I'm with a man. But lately, when I'm having sex, I've been thinking about having a threesome with a man and a beautiful girl. I just want to see how it will feel.
