Would You Kiss a Girl?
By Dana Hudepohl
"An innocent lunch ended with fogged-up car windows"
Jessica, 28, publicist
I've kissed a lot of boys, starting from the time I was 5 years old, behind the bushes at school, and going all the way through college. Toward the end of college I thought about kissing girls, but I never had an opportunity to act on it.
The first time I kissed a woman I was 22, and my lips buzzed for three hours afterward. A friend of mine who knew I was interested in being with women pulled me into a shadowy stairwell outside her apartment and laid one on me. It lasted a couple of minutes and was soft and sweet and incredible and so erotic. I was in a daze, cataloging my body's reaction: My lips were burning, tingly, sensitive, and I was hot all over. Never had I had that kind of visceral reaction with a guy.
Kissing girls is nothing like kissing guys. Guys tend to be clumsier and to have an ultimate goal in mind. Girls intrinsically get the intimacy of kissing: You're doing it for the enjoyment of it, and there's no rush to get to the next point. So kissing in and of itself becomes very arousing.
Right after that first kiss I knew I was all about girls, but not everyone is the same. My current girlfriend had never been with a woman before me, and I'm 99 percent sure that if we ever broke up, she would go back to dating guys. But we had immediate chemistry. What started as an innocent lunch as friends ended with us having sex in the car behind the restaurant, fogged-up windows and all. It was fast and hard and really hot, and it has stayed electric for the four years ever since. She was comfortable enough with herself to say, "Fuck society, I like you."
I don't rule out going back to dating men. But when I compare making out for 45 minutes with the perfect guy and not feeling anything to one hot kiss with a cute girl ... I doubt it.