What Will Your Sex Life Be Like in 5, 10, 20 Years?
Imagine the best sex of your life. Now imagine it getting better. According to our exclusive report, sex never has to stop becoming hotter. These women reveal how to make sure it happens.
By Kate Sullivan
WHAT REALLY HAPPENS TO YOUR SEX LIFE IN YOUR 30S
Testosterone begins to slowly decline (it peaked in your 20s), says sex researcher Laura Berman, Ph.D., director of the Berman Center in Chicago. Yet women in their 30s tend to have heightened orgasms. TIP: If you didn't experiment with self-touch in your 20s, do it now. "This is key for keeping your sex drive going," says Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of Sexual Healing. Try inserting a finger and slowly rubbing at the top of the front wall of your vagina (the "A-spot," which helps you produce lubrication) for about 10 minutes.
"SEX ISN'T ABOUT IMPRESSING SOMEONE." -Neena, 32
I definitely have more fun with sex now and am less concerned about impressing someone. I know what feels better for me alone, and how to get the guy to get it right, too. I still have moments when I worry a little bit after sex and wonder, Was that OK? But I think about that much less frequently than I used to.
Being sexy is about being confident, and my sex life has improved now that I've tried to stop comparing myself with other women. Women need to focus more on themselves and less on how fat a bottom her ex's new girlfriend has .Being competitive with other women is ugly, not sexy. I will compliment a woman's dress at a bar, because her beauty does not detract from mine. You're at your sexiest when you can say another woman is also sexy.
I also used to think I was lucky if a guy was showing interest in me. Now that I'm older, I think less about "lucky me" and more "lucky him." Imagine the best sex of your life. Now imagine it getting better. According to our exclusive report, sex never has to stop becoming hotter. These women reveal how to make sure it happens