Prioritizing your pleasure matters, but most people don't know where to begin when it comes to sex toys. Don't worry, you're in good hands—I consulted sex educator and researcher Gwen Walsh for guidance on this often intimidating topic. Keep reading for her best beginner-friendly tips and product recommendations.
Marie Claire: Sex toys can feel super intimidating. Where would you recommend starting, and what toys are good for beginners?
Gwen Walsh: Reflection and exploration are important parts of sex toy shopping. Everyone has different preferences when it comes to power level, type of stimulation (vibration, penetration, bondage, etc.), material (i.e., silky silicone vs smooth steel), and price point. I'd recommend starting with some self-reflection and partnered reflection: Take a look at the Adam & Eve website and see what you and your partner are interested in, and make sure you are both comfortable with whatever you choose.
One partner could also get a toy that's just for them, like a clitoral vibrator to use during penetration or a lube to add a new sensation during a hand job. Remember that mutual comfort, connection, and pleasure are the most important aspects of intimacy: sex toys are there to enhance your sexual relationship with yourself and your partner.
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MC: From your expert perspective, why do you recommend shopping at Adam & Eve?
GW: Adam & Eve has a wide variety of choices, which is important because every body, budget, and sexual identity is different. For example, some folks might want a brightly colored, high-powered external vibrator, and others might prefer a minimalistic toy that doesn't vibrate. The adult industry is largely unregulated, which means that toy brands can freely make false claims about materials and safety. Buying toys from an established sex toy retailer like Adam & Eve is safer than buying from a general online retailer.
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MC: Any other advice you want to share for someone's first time using a sex toy?
GW: When exploring sex toys and tools, prioritize your well-being: Clean your toys between uses and discontinue use and speak with your doctor or OBGYN if you notice any side effects from use. Pay attention to your unique preferences and limitations and have fun with your sex toy exploration!
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