Dear CC: I work in a male-heavy office where banter often
leads to sexual jokes about the female receptionist. I don't want to make a big
deal of it, but I do think their talk is offensive. Should I just laugh along
like one of the guys?

You're not one of the guys, but you don't want to come off
like the Church Lady, either. Try affecting the world-weary condescension women
reserve for frat boys everywhere: "Yeah, guys, we all know that Nikki at
the front desk is sporting a lovely pair, but c'mon. That kind of stuff doesn't
bother me, but if Ms. Tight Sphincter in accruals walks past and hears it,
you're toast. And you know I'd miss you all so much."

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