Why do we celebrate
Independence Day? Because
independence is attractive. We
were not cool when we were a colony. My advice: don’t be like
the British Imperial Government pre-1776 and try to colonize someone. Conversely, don’t be like the Colonists
pre-1776 and allow yourself to be colonized.
Aside from sense of humor,
independence is the most attractive quality in a person. The paradox is that relationships are
entities that require a certain amount of dependence on one another. So how do we do this?
In some cases, nature has
figured it out. A good example where both partners benefit would be the
clownfish/sea anemone as outlined in Wonderclub.com:
The clownfish has a
symbiotic, or mutually beneficial, relationship with the sea anemone. It catches
most of its food by cooperating with its host anemone. The clownfish will leave
the safety of the anemone's tentacles and swim out among the nearby reef. Its
brilliant colors attract larger fish, who, lured by the thought of a meal,
follow it back to the anemone and are stung by the anemone one's tentacles. The
anemone then consumes the fish, and the clownfish feeds on the remains.
The clownfish also eats away debris and nibbles off the dead tentacles of its host anemone.
OK, so it’s a bit morbid (maybe nibbling off the dead tentacles cute?), but you know what I’m getting at. It “cooperates” with its host. That’s key: relationships are about cooperation.
We need to remember that
relationships are just one part of our lives. We need to make sure to swim out
into the reef when we want to—if we are allowed that independence, we will
always return to our anemone.
Being independent is
attractive, and allowing independence in a relationship is a sign of trust.
This is not an easy thing to do though, and when we colonize someone or get
colonized by someone, we fall into parasitic “can’t live without you”
tendencies—we lose friends, and other parts of our lives break apart.
My independence is written
on the face of the sky. Whoever
derived the definition of Sagittarius was spot on. I’ve always been into astrology because most of the girls I
liked in my younger years were somehow unattainable, so my only hope was to
find out their sign and see how well we linked up. That was always as far as I got. But here is what I learned about my sign:
Traits: Fun...Optimist...Good-natured...Sociable...Spiritual...Impatient...Fears
Responsibility (yikes)...Self-Indulgence (double yikes)...Peter Pan Syndrome
Likes: Freedom...Unusual Ideas...Being on
the Move...Parties...Luxury Items...Gambling...New Friends...Flirting
Dislikes: Public Disapprova (well, who would like
this?)...Playing Safe...Confinement...Monotony...Tight clothes/Areas(well, I love/hate
my tight jeans)...Being Doubted...Being Refused
They’ve figured me
out. I just don’t like to be held
down. As soon as the spark is gone
from a relationship, it must end. I like pursuing girls who are independent. I feel like I need to earn their
time. It’s just unnatural to think
I can’t live without someone. My
desire to do nothing (or something) whenever I want will never go away. I’d like to think that the women I date
have tons of things going on, or need alone time as well.
So how is this Sagittarius
who is kind of self absorbed, craving adventure, freedom, independence, and
fearing responsibility supposed to find someone compatible—or even someone who
likes that “no responsibility” part?
I’m at a loss, so I’m
going to submit a video to this psychic for a reading (she does it for free!). She’s actually counseled a lot of
A-listers (maybe she’ll do a Z-lister like me). Hopefully she didn’t advise Britney to cut her hair, or
Ashley Simpson to do an Irish jig off the stage after getting caught
mid-lip-synch. But if these types
are so right about my sign, then maybe they’ll have some insight into where my
soul mate is...or what type of girl I need to look for. Maybe she’ll just tell me I’m destined to be alone. If I don’t look disgusting in it, I’ll
share the video with you all.
Is it important to you
that your guy be independent? Are
you searching for a much more intensive relationship than I’m looking for: spending all your time together? What
is your take on astrology? Do you
find that the clairvoyants out there have pegged you perfectly with your sign
traits? Do you do better with guys
born under certain signs? In the spirit of Independence Day, can you share
experiences where you have had to get out of an oppressive relationship like
the colonists under the British Imperialists?
