Old sports: (and young sports, too:)
In the last twelve hours or so, I've been contacted online by two men who are ten years younger than I am. One (who calls himself "The MAC Daddy!") seems to just want to get lucky. The other wants to take me out for dinner. This a pretty typical; I've been surprised (as I've said on this blog before) by just how frequently younger strangers respond to my online profile. (Of course, this week, I also heard from an 80-year-old man ... but that's a huge anomaly.)
However, the online dating site OK Cupid--which prides itself on using mathematical analysis to improve users' chances of meeting someone with similar interests--recently released a report on how older women fare when it comes to online dating that seems to contradict my personal experience.
According to the numbers that OK Cupid crunched:
-As a man gets older, he searches for relatively younger and younger women ... although he generally won't consider anyone more than three or four years older. (The median 31 year-old guy, for example, sets his allowable match age range from 22 to 35-nine years younger, but only four years older, than himself. This skewed mindset worsens with age; the median 42 year-old will accept a woman up to fifteen years younger, but no more than three years older.)
-A 30 year-old man spends as much time messaging 18 and 19 year-olds as he does women his own age.
-Women, on the other hand, are much more open to older dudes--and much less open to younger ones. (When the average female OK Cupid user turns 20, she decides it's okay to message significantly older men. Through her twenties, she's pretty open to men both older and younger. But at age 29, she becomes even more open to older men and stops writing the youngest OK Cupid users, i.e. 18- or 19-year-olds.)
On the face of it, these stats might seem a little disheartening.
But considering most women are cool with older men, and most men are into younger women, maybe it's not so bad?
Also, I have to think I'm not the only older female who is hearing from lots of youngsters.
After all, I just looked at my profile to double-check how I described myself and it doesn't say anything like "I want to date little babies." Or "I'm a cougar." Or "I will give anyone under the age of 23 a blow job in the bathroom at your local McDonald's." I also don't have any naked pictures posted. I'm also not exactly drop-dead gorgeous, so it's not as though that would explain it.
As such, I conclude that my experience is not unusual ... and that plenty of women over 30 are hearing from their juniors.
Ladies and gentleman: What do you think? What's your experience been like? Who do you hear from, and who do you contact?