I thought I understood
flirting, but it appears I have no idea how it works. Here are actions that I thought signified
flirting from girls:
- Making a lot of eye
contact
- Putting your face close to
mine when speaking
- Brushing my arm or
touching me during conversation
- Laughing at most of my stupid
jokes (I really think this takes some effort)
- In a crowded room, you a
lot of time with me and seek me out and you don’t run away from me
- Letting me compliment you
and you push for me for more compliments
- Playing with your hair
while we are talking to each other
Guys definitely notice
these subtle things—although I’ve been told:
“You’re so stupid, that
girl was totally flirting with you and you couldn’t even figure it out.”
Maybe I’m reading too much
into these things. Lately, a girl that I
have thought was really cute for a long time has been doing all of the things I
mentioned above. Thing is she has a
boyfriend. Therefore, everyone around me
tells me that I’m just reading into what she’s doing. She’s friendly and sort of flirty when she’s
drunk.
I only flirt with girls that I want to eventually hook up with. What is the point of flirting with someone that I don’t find attractive or that I don’t intend to date? Am I in the minority in thinking this way? Do girls flirt with guys that they don’t find attractive?
A lot of girls I know say
they flirt just for positive attention.
Bottom line is that it
looks like I’m putting too much stock in flirting. Perhaps I’m wrong to give myself credit when
a girl flirts with me. Most people seem
to think flirting is light-hearted fun, and flirting can be done with no
intentions at all. To most people, it is
even acceptable to flirt with others when you are in a committed
relationship. Maybe flirting is a
natural behavior that happens unconsciously from time to time. So, while I think I am not flirting with
certain girls—who knows—maybe I am?
Do you have anything to
add to my list of flirting behavior? How
do you flirt, and do you think I’m putting too much stock in to flirting? Is flirting just common behavior that is so
harmless it’s ok to flirt with others when you’re in a committed
relationship? Just because a girl flirts
with me, do you think I’m wrong to think there might be romantic interest
there?
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