Whyd you want to put this book together?
I knew I needed the blessing of Nick Hornby, who wrote the introduction, and pretty much invented the genre of the mens confessional with High Fidelity. But its more than men have feelings, too. Thats why I put Dan Vebbers essay Sex Is the Most Stressful Thing in the History of the Universe first hes not the biggest name in the book, but his story about how his first time was so anxiety-provoking that he now considers himself a survivor of Post-Traumatic Sex Disorder sets the tone of going against what you usually hear about men.
How did you find the contributors?
Some, like Bob Odenkirk, were comedy heroes of mine. I also wanted to see what musicians like Fountains of Waynes Adam Schlesinger and OK Gos Damian Kulash, who deal with breakups in their lyrics, would do with a different format. Adam annotated a pop song and Damian wrote a poignant piece about how you cant stay together just because you share a dog.
Any favorite pieces?
Im contractually obligated to say I love them all, but I can tell you that the one by my mom, I Think My Son Is a Catch, is the least objective thing ever written.
Would this book be as funny if it were written by women, or would it have a Hes Just Not That Into You quality?
Hard to say. I think comedy is all about that element of surprise, and women are a lot more able to access their feelings, whereas men are more reticent and stoic so them talking about their feelings is a bigger surprise. But we also wanted to keep it away from being one timbre or overly sentimental, so I DJed it for a good mix.
Give us some advice about the kindest way to dump a guy.
Move to a different state, destroy your birth records, change your entire identity. No awkward conversation just disappear completely. In Will Fortes essay, his ex-girlfriends new boyfriend lives across the street, so he constantly sees them together can you imagine anything worse?
Not really. Is this book the best anti-Valentines Day gift?
I think Jerry Falwells Guide to Abstinence would be, but this is a close second.
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