Forcing Women to Have Babies They Don't Want Is Costing Them Their Lives

Let's cut right to it: A law that bans abortion is a law that mandates pregnancy. And forcing women to be pregnant is a clear-cut denial of freedom. Between the continued state-level assaults on abortion rights (opens in new tab) and the news last week that the Trump administration plans to overturn Obamacare's birth control mandate (opens in new tab), that freedom is directly in the line of fire. Which is why I'm so baffled by the spate of high-ranking Democrats suggesting that the left abandon reproductive rights as a core principle.

Last month, House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi said Democrats are "not a rubber stamp party" (opens in new tab) and that abortion rights were "fading as an issue" (opens in new tab) for voters; Bernie Sanders supported an anti-choice mayoral candidate (opens in new tab) in Nebraska, saying "you just can't exclude people who disagree with us on one issue;" and Louisiana Governor John Bel Edwards argued at the DNC that the party would be more successful in the South if they supported anti-choice candidates. (opens in new tab)

But a woman's autonomy over her body and life isn't just "one issue" or a political strategy: It's a fundamental human right. In fact, the United Nations included lack of access to abortion in their 2013 report on torture and inhuman treatment (opens in new tab), noting that denial of abortion care is gender-based abuse. In Pelosi's pivot away from abortion rights she also said, "In our caucus, one thing unifies us: our values about working families." How is preventing gender-based abuse not a value of working families? It goes to show how tenuous women's rights really are that leaders on the left would be willing to dismiss these truths in the name of political expediency.

Part of the problem is that expecting women to repeatedly defend abortion is dehumanizing in and of itself. In the weeks following Pelosi's and Sanders' comments, we relayed the statistics—as we have had to time and again—showing how curbing access to abortion hurts women (opens in new tab). Or how laws passed under the guise of protecting women are little more than cruel roadblocks (opens in new tab) to necessary care.

We patiently go over the ways in which the right to have an abortion is a key part of economic equality and justice (opens in new tab). We share our personal stories (opens in new tab)—often to a hostile reception—of how access to abortion made our lives better. Or, in my case, how an abortion protected my health and possibly my life (opens in new tab). (The U.S. has the highest maternal mortality rate in the developed world, and is the only place where that rate is rising.)

But why do we still have to go to such great lengths? Making these arguments feels like begging for scraps. It's humiliating to be put in the position of having to convince someone of your humanity. I'm tired of women having to explain themselves to people who will never know what it feels like to be pregnant when you don't want to or cannot be.

How many studies need to be done? How many articles do we have to write, or stories do we have to share, before people will accept that a woman's ability to control what happens to her body is as necessary to her as oxygen? When will they realize that denying us this is deadly?

During times of political strife, it's always the rights of the most marginalized that are deemed expendable or strategically fraught (opens in new tab). When George W. Bush was president, I remember the same arguments—we needed a "bigger tent," abortions rights were a "single issue."

But Democrats would do well to remember who greeted Trump on his first full day in office. It was women, millions of us, marching around the world and outside Trump's door to remind the new administration that we are here and that our rights and our humanity are not so easily ignored. If need be, we can show up at the Democrats' front steps, too.

Jessica Valenti is a contributing editor to MarieClaire.com—read her weekly column here (opens in new tab).