The Feedback Translator
Ever walked away from a review with more questions than answers? You're not alone 81 percent of women have difficult interpreting critiques. Use this glossary to decode evaluation speak.
"I always put aside extra time to get ready for a meeting, even if it means getting up earlier. If I feel god, I'm more confident and function better." -Diane von Furstenberg
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Too edgy"
WHAT IT MEANS: Plainly put, you're not friendly enough. Managers don't see you as approachable, which may be hindering your career. Quick fix: Smile more and make an effort at deskside chitchat.
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Lack impact"
WHAT IT MEANS: Shyness (being passive in meetings, waiting to be asked questions) can be confused with indifference. As a result, others don't solicit your opinions. Quick fix: Swallow your anxieties and pipe up with ideas.
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Too emotional"
WHAT IT MEANS: You gesticulate and raise your voice when championing ideas, which suggests you're not in control. Quick fix: Make more eye contact and use just one hand to reinforce your points it's not as pushy.
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Not a team player"
WHAT IT MEANS:While often constructed as an inability to work with others, this criticism tends to speak to a standoffishness with coworkers, especially socially.Quick fix: Make it a point to go to office happy hours.
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Too laid-back"
WHAT IT MEANS: You may not be dressing professionally, are overly familiar with colleagues, or don't convey a sense of urgency about work. Quick fix: Step up your game with a new suit, quit schmoozing, and walk with purpose.
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Need to dial it back"
WHAT IT MEANS: You think you know best and are too quick to offer your two cents, which leaves others feeling defensive. Quick fix: Wait until someone asks your opinion. Praise their ideas first, then add your twist.
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Too risky"
WHAT IT MEANS: Your idea of innovation may not align with your company's vision. Your big ideas may be unworkable or off-brand. Quick fix: Watch the office all-star and what elements of her pitches perk the boss's ears.
YOUR BOSS SAYS: "Need to be more assertive"
WHAT IT MEANS: Your voice is not projecting confidence you speak too softly, engage in baby talk, or end every statement with a question mark. Quick fix: Raise your voice, enunciate, and stop doubting yourself.