4 Movies That Were Really Bad for Women and Sex

*Ladies* don't have sex and some other drivel we've learned in recent films.

Sarah Jessica Parker (in white) & Kristin Davis (in pink) in scene from 'Sex and the City'
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Fact: Women enjoy sex. And while some movies have helped society grasp (opens in new tab) the fact that fully realized women have sexual desires and sometimes actually do the deed (shocker!), other movies seem to operate in another era. Like...

Charlotte is worried about her husband's attraction to the new nanny, and only resolves the problem when she finds out that her nanny is a lesbian and therefore not a threat (gag). Samantha is terrified that menopause will destroy her libido and has wild sexual encounters that actually lead to her getting arrested. While this flick was far from a critical darling, it's also not doing us any favors in the women-aren't-actually-desperate/crazy arena.

Yes, I understand that this is based on a book. Yes, I understand that bringing BDSM to mainstream audiences is a huge move. And yes, I encourage all partners to understand the wants and needs of their own partners in the bedroom. But when it comes to the main protagonist—Anastasia—she's not only a newbie to BDSM, she's a newbie to sex. Yep, she's a virgin. That little plot point alone is worth all the downgrades. She couldn't just be new to BDSM? No, she had to be a virgin because that's the ultimate woman; a woman in her purest form. We're calling bullshit.

A woman has a one-night stand, only to find out she has the interview of a lifetime the next morning and needs to get home—all without her car. This one was a hard one to include, as a) I love Elizabeth Banks b) the idea that the character feels no internal shame when it comes to her sexploits is fantastic and we're all about that (opens in new tab). (Applause emoji). The crux of the movie, however, hinges on the idea that "good girls" stay in, while "bad girls" go out and wear skin-tight yellow dresses and hook up with guys. This seriously out-of-date idea of women is the basis for all of the jokes and is just, well, sexist.

This movie, created by Tyler Perry, is basically a PSA against infidelity. After a marriage counselor grows apart from her husband, she gives in to her feelings for a client and begins an affair. The movie takes a turn when *spoiler alert* she gets beaten by her new boyfriend and eventually contracts AIDS. YES THIS IS REAL. Instead of having a movie that tackles intimate issues and complex relationships, a movie was created to scare women into locking up their sexual appetites and focus on pleasing their husbands because if you don't bad things will happen—like you'll get beat and get AIDS. WHAT?! WHAT. No.

You should also check out:

4 Reasons Porn Is Actually Really, Really Good for Women (opens in new tab)

10 Sex Truths They Don't Teach You in High School (opens in new tab)

9 Things That Happen to Everyone During Sex (but Nobody Talks About) (opens in new tab)

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