Are there any styles that turn me off immediately? You bet. I'd to give you a guy's point of view on style, and how mistakes can ruin any chance of attraction:
Too Much Makeup
The most striking turnoff for me is when a girl is wearing too much makeup. I've always been the type of guy who appreciates a natural look as it is, and when a girl does her makeup well, the results can be magical. But the one thing that should never happen is excessive application: too much, too many colors, or if it's just a botched attempt at a good makeup technique. Keep in mind, I'm really scared of clowns!
Seems like as time goes by, makeup makes like the earth and erodes and changes with weathering. There is nothing more ghastly than makeup run amuck in the morning after spending the night together.
Sure, I admit that guys have fixation with cleavage, but we don't always like when it's popping out of a top. We have a tough enough time keeping our eyes level, and excessive cleavage just provides another challenge. Plus, cleavage is most effective when there's a little hint of it, and then we are left to imagine what else is there. Sadly, most of my friends and I agree that once we've seen the boobs, the mystery is gone. The tiny amount of cleavage that led up to that is what really what we found intriguing.
Another problem with excessive cleavage is that it takes the focus off of the things about you that matter: your face, what you actually have to say, etc. If a girl is running around with too much cleavage hanging out, we'll assume that she's trying to make up for a weakness in some other part of herself-and that she really is craving attention.
Class is a very attractive trait in a woman, and skirts that are too short, or slutty stilettos, etc, will chip away at a girl's class.
If I see a girl who is dressed slutty, I'm immediately struck with intimidation-the same kind I get around strippers. I'll also worry about who else she has slept with-and you know I always fear STD. Slutty apparel will also make it look like a woman is not much of a challenge, and we all like a challenge.
Obvious Celebrity Emulation
When a girl goes out and gets the same haircut as her favorite celebrity, and even dresses like that celebrity on top of this, it is obvious. "Oh that girl thinks she's Katie Holmes." Suddenly, all of the focus is off of hearing what this girl has to say, and it spotlights on the fact that she thinks she's a particular celeb. It's also a little psycho to just cop someone else's style and look.
However, if a girl can take a celebrity's style and spin her own take onto it, it can be really attractive and intriguing. It just can't be a straight copy. I love those winter jackets girls wear sometimes that look like the ones that Jackie O. wore. Just a little Jackie O. flare is fine-you don't have to try to be her!
I know it's nice to have some bling, and giant rocks, etc...but it will really make me thihnk I can't afford you. I also don't get when a girl goes out on Saturday afternoon in jeans and a t-shirt, lugging a gigantic Fendi python bag. Is that really necessary? One time a bunch of us went to Preakness-a horse race in Baltimore where we all turn sub-human and drink on a racetrack infield. This girl I had quite a crush on came with us and wore pearls-not normal Preakness attire. I don't remember the time I spent with her that day other than the fact that she was wearing pearls in this Hell zone that we were in. Just a bit over the top.
Basically, a successful look will have a guy say:
"wow that girl has great style," and leave it at that. You don't want anything to be so distracting that people are fixated on it. It should all just complement your natural looks and gifts. But, I've said it before-we do notice these things, so all of that effort and time is not being wasted. Sometimes, it's the least effort that makes the best impression too!
So now it's your turn. What are your pet peeves for guy's fashion? Is it true that sandals on guys is unappealing? Do you agree with the mistakes I mentioned, and do you have any others for women?
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