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The New Trophy Wives: Asian Women
Rupert Murdoch has one. So do financiers Vivi Nevo and Bruce Wasserstein. Why are the West's most powerful men coupling up with younger Asian women?
By Ying Chu Published
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What Would You Sacrifice for Love?
Not that I keep up on Britney Spears headlines, but I couldn't help but notice that she's considering converting to Judaism because her boyfriend is Jewish. She's welcome to do that if she'd like, but it got me wondering about limits...
By Rich Santos Published
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4 Things the Movies Taught Me About Love
Charlyne Yi, writer and star of Paper Heart, a mockumentary costarring her real-life beau, Michael Cera, shares some defining movie moments.
By Marie Claire Published
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Do You Have a Good Dating Mindset?
It's difficult to remain upbeat and positive when you have a string of bad dates, or boring, unattractive people. When the bad experiences pile up you get numb to the whole dating thing.
By Rich Santos Published
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Does Aggressiveness Ever Pay?
Let me tell you how my friend's recent date one-upped a vampire for creepiness.
By Rich Santos Published
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Does Love Conqure All?
I think love is like the Roman Empire: it conquers a lot, but not all.
By Rich Santos Published
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4 Ways To Reject a Guy After a Bad First Date
One can argue that rejecting someone is tougher than getting rejected. But a tricky time to reject someone is after the first date.
By Rich Santos Published
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Sex Diary: My Dream Guy
I wake up in the middle of an erotic dream about a guy I dated two years before.
By Marie Claire Published
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5 Ways To Make Me Miss You
The other side of enjoying time with your significant other is missing them when they are not around.
By Rich Santos Published
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My 4 Visual Deal Breakers
A few weeks back I had a great time working on an upcoming "Man in the Street" feature for Marie Claire. We asked women what makes a guy dating material, and the most common answer was: someone who has it together, and has goals/ambitions. "Having it together" goes beyond the mental aspect. I've realized that women can take one look at me and size me up as someone who doesn't have it together, and may have no ambition. My disheveled appearance could stand some adjustments. Here are some elements of my appearance that I should work on to look more "together": My Posture I walk around as if I'm auditioning for the lead role in a Nosferatu remake. My shoulders are rolled forward, and I'm hunched over. I can't tell whether I'm tired, too relaxed or what. But there's one thing I do know, women like tall guys. I'm cheating myself with my bad posture. If I stand up straight, I'm 5'11" (well, 5'10 and .99999999 inches); nothing to write home about, but it is over the average for the American male (5'9"). I should take advantage of anything above average about me. Standing up straight will also make me look more confident.
By Rich Santos Published
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Can You Beat This Worst Date Story?
Hearing lore of dating disasters past makes me realize that I am, while stupid and ignorant, not a freak.
By Rich Santos Published
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Why Do We Have One Night Stands?
What is the purpose of the one-night stand? I don't condone one-night stands; for me they've led to awkwardness, and self-loathing (of course I'm filled with self loathing without sex in my life, so wh...
By Rich Santos Published
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The Relationship Road Map
It stands to reason that, as someone who is eternally lost, I am lost in the dating world.
By Rich Santos Published
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Would You Sacrifice Sex to Get Pregnant?
The purpose-driven sex life. Cara Birnbaum discovers the real cost of IVF.
By Cara Birnbaum Published
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How Lying Helps Your Relationship
They say "honesty is the best policy," and this rings true in dating. But women accuse me of speaking too truthfully, believe it or not.
By Rich Santos Published
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What Makes Someone "Dating Material"?
Due to my lack of networking with women, I've painted myself as "non-dating" material. I didn't think anything made one guy more "dateable" than another.
By Rich Santos Published
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Is Chivalry A Dying Art?
One of my vivid childhood memories took place on a soccer field. When I was four or so, the soccer leagues were co-ed. In those days there was no method to the madness for us fledgling players. The ball would move and we'd all fo...
By Rich Santos Published
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From Friend to Lover: Flirting 101
One night, my friend Melissa told us that she had a quandary with a guy who was coming out to meet her at the bar. Melissa and him were friends, but she couldn't figure out how to get it to the next level. Melissa's friends said "just flirt with hi...
By Rich Santos Published
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3 Little White Lies Men Should Always Tell
Call me crazy, but I find these kinds of lies endearing.
By Maura Kelly Published
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A Cute Gesture, Or Total Insanity?
My friend went temporarily psycho a few weeks ago when her overseas love interest visited NYC from Denmark.
By Rich Santos Published
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Acting Like A Viking Got Me Rejected
Last weekend marked yet another futile effort at getting a date.
By Rich Santos Published
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State-Sponsored Romance
Facing a flat birthrate and a leap in the marriage age, the Singapore government amps up its matchmaking program.
By Cheryl Lu-Lien Tan Published
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Have You Ever Been Attracted by a Deal Sealer?
We've all heard of deal breakers. But the other day I was wondering if the opposite existed: The Deal Sealer. Do we sometimes go for someone because of a little perk? If someone is nice, funny, or intelligent, it can't be considered a deal sealer. It has to be something outside of personality. The classic Deal Sealer is money. It's a superficial perk, but sometimes it is enough for us to be attracted to someone. With a deal Deal Sealer, we convince ourselves that this person will become nice, smart or funny with time...or we are really pulling for them to do so.Is it possible to have that person grow on you beyond the appeal of their Deal Sealer perk? The vast majority of relationships based on a Deal Sealer will fizzle out. A fun perk can only last so long. Eventually, there needs to be some substance. Here are some Deal Sealers I've seen:
By Rich Santos Published
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Why I Never Should Have Given Him My Number
Dating Diary: The Wrong Call
By Marie Claire Published
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The Last One Standing
A couple of weeks ago, my high school reunion served as yet another reminder that I'm part of a dying breed: the single guy. My peers are all ahead of me, and I'm even being lapped by some. Unfortunately, my high sc...
By Rich Santos Published
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What the Guys I Date Don't Know
Born with a rare condition that left her body malformed, Carla Sosenko dates in dark places and dreads the big reveal.
By Marie Claire Published