This past weekend my buddy and I were at happy hour chatting with a woman at the bar. I was impressed by how interesting she was, and particularly astounded by the following three things:
- I knew 90% of the songs that came on the jukebox, but she knew every song that came on the jukebox.
Helter Skelter, the story of the 1969 Charles Manson murders. Most women I know call me weird for reading it, but the woman at the bar had read the book.
- This woman argued with my friend and me about the best male vocalist in rock history. She supported her argument with relevant facts — a refreshing departure from
my recent argument with my friend over Lady Gaga in which she called me "close-minded."
It reminded me of a phenomenon I encounter in my dating life:
I've come up with a couple of questions to try to understand this:
Can cute girls talk about "boy stuff"?
Are good-looking people enabled to get by without having a great personality?
I may be shallow because I only date women who are physically attractive to me, but I don't particularly enjoy making out with a hot girl who has no personality. It's an empty experience based on aesthetic pleasure without mental/spiritual connection. Hot people should have to prove they have a great personalities — even the hottest girl would get boring after a while if she had no personality.
Should we expect our significant other's personality to turn our world upside down (in a good way)?
Most people find enlightenment in museums, music, books, movies. Perhaps the majority of people are not looking for their significant other to do so. Personally, I'd love to be enlightened by a woman.
My friend told me that I'd eventually find someone interesting AND cute but "you can never get everything just right." That discouraged me.
When I told that same friend I intended to take the original Texas Chainsaw Massacre over to a girl's house for a movie night, my friend told me: "She's not going to appreciate it the way you appreciate it. She would be freaked out."
Me: "So, she wouldn't buy into my observation that the movie has incredible pacing?"
My friend: "She wouldn't know what pacing is. There are certain things you just shouldn't discuss with certain girls."
I guess I need to pick up Titanic or Sex and the City for a movie night, but boy would I be bored.
Maybe I'm looking for a challenging woman who fills in little blanks/voids in my mind and life. It sure is tough to find a pretty girl who can do that.
What are your thoughts on my argument above? Do you agree with my philosophies, and do you run into similar problems in the dating world?