Prince Harry Allegedly Once Told Prince William “Kate Could Be Friendlier to Meghan”

A new book says Harry wanted Meghan to be just as appreciated as his mother, Princess Diana.

Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle
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Tom Bower’s new book, Revenge: Meghan, Harry, and the War Between the Windsors details a tough conversation between brothers Prince William and Prince Harry about the relationship between their respective wives, Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle.

According to The Mirror, the book claims that Harry, while he and Meghan were preparing for their official visit to Australia and New Zealand in 2018, told William that Kate should be “friendlier to his wife.”

“Members of their family, said Harry, were not showing her [Meghan] sufficient support, respect, or friendship,” Bower writes. “Meghan, Harry believed, should be just as appreciated as their mother [Princess Diana].”

Not totally shockingly, the conversation did not go over well.

“William’s reply was not sympathetic,” Bower writes.

By the latter half of 2018, the brothers were already at odds and had been for some time. But Bower writes, “beyond the palaces, few were aware of the split between the brothers.” After all, William had just served as his younger brother’s best man at his wedding just a few months prior in May 2018.

It was in the leadup to that wedding that the “who made who cry” drama between Kate and Meghan happened, reportedly at a bridesmaid dress fitting. The media alleged Meghan made Kate cry; during her March 2021 explosive interview with Oprah Winfrey, Meghan said the reverse happened.

Bower’s book contains new details about the altercation, in which he alleges that the two fell out over whether Kate’s daughter Princess Charlotte should wear tights and if the dress fit properly.

Another veteran royal biographer, Andrew Morton, wrote in his book Meghan: A Hollywood Princess that Kate didn’t have “much energy” to bond with Meghan in the months before the wedding, as she was experiencing a difficult pregnancy with her youngest child, Prince Louis, who was born less than a month before Meghan’s wedding. (Louis was born on April 23, 2018; the wedding was on May 19 of the same year.)

Meghan has said she has forgiven Kate and, speaking to Oprah, said Kate is a “good person” and that Kate sent her flowers to apologize for the incident. Meghan didn’t directly address what caused the spat—only that it happened.

Rachel Burchfield
Contributing Royal Editor

Rachel Burchfield is a writer whose primary interests are fashion and beauty, society and culture, and, most especially, the British Royal Family. In addition to serving as the royal editor at Marie Claire, she has worked with publications like Vogue, Vanity Fair, ELLE, Harper’s Bazaar, and more. She cohosts Podcast Royal, a show that provides candid commentary on the biggest royal family headlines and offers segments on fashion, beauty, health and wellness, and lifestyle.