Though it’s easy to compare our sex lives and relationships to the movies or TV shows we watch, it’s important to remember what the great Dr. Ruth likes to say: “There’s no such thing as normal.” Of course, this is something that podcasters figured out a long time ago. Whether you want straightforward (but thoughtful) sex advice, deep dives on the most specific kinks you can think of, or beautiful stories of romance and finding one another, the best sex podcasts can simultaneously make us laugh, cry, and feel a lot less weird for whatever our thing might be. Here are 11 of the best sex and relationships podcasts to check out in 2019. (P.S. As you could probably guess, most of the podcasts on this list are NSFW.)
The Ersties are described as “a team of filmmakers, porn producers, models” who now have their own podcast, where they discuss things like squirting, sex magick, camming, and even things like how mental health and sexuality are intertwined. Plus, listen in for really badass guests like porn legend Asa Akira and comedian Sofie Hagen.
Host and producer Tina Horn brings on special guests to take you through an occasionally blush-inducing, frequently educational, and inherently thoughtful look at fetishes, kinks, and the other misunderstood ephemera that make up complicated human sex lives. With its mix of science, first-person stories, history, and pop culture, it may even help you discover something you didn’t realize you were into.
Australian tech strategist and researcher Bryony Cole dives into everything from teledildonics (that is, remote-control sex toys) to when exactly we can expect the sex robot uprising in this influential podcast that goes deep on the issues that are either already affecting or will soon impact our sex lives. Though Bryony hasn’t added any new episodes in 2019 yet, it’s worth listening to the back catalog.
Not exactly a listen for the family road trip, host Rose Caraway acts as “sexy librarian,” reading aloud from the work of some of the best erotica writers working today. As you can imagine, the results are sexy and very NSFW, like porn for your ears.
This self-described “smutty but charming” podcast has already won awards for its considered portrayals of LGBTQ sex lives. It’s a storytelling project that highlights the funny, erotic, and occasionally cringe-y experiences of other people—the best way to feel less alone yourself.
Host Jamie Morton uncovered that his otherwise very normal father had secretly been writing explicitly and baffling erotica under the pseudonym Rocky Flintstone. So Jamie did what any good son would: He invited two friends over to make fun of it on a microphone. The result is My Dad Wrote a Porno, one of the most-listened-to podcasts in the UK and its own HBO special in the U.S. It’s addictive and funny, but start from the beginning or you won’t understand why Belinda blinked!
Esther Perel is an absolute legend in the sex and relationships space: The therapist and educator is not only a best-selling author (Mating in Captivity is a mind-blowing must-read) and TED Talk, uh, giver, but she also hosts an illuminating podcast about human sexuality. Where Should We Begin? Introduces real couples and the very relatable issues that plague them, from self-consciousness in relationships to how to reignite the spark. The rare podcast for the already-settled-down.
Dr. Emily Morse is a judgement-free, super approachable human sexuality expert, and she wants to share her knowledge with her listeners. Each episode, she talks about her own life and then picks a few reader submissions to go over, in which she explains everything from which sex toys are best for which proclivities and how multiple orgasms are totally a thing.
OG podcaster and sexuality educator Sandra Daugherty (this thing has been on since 2011!) discusses up-to-the-minute sex and relationship items—like why Tumblr’s porn ban is a big deal—with special guests, debunking misconceptions and breaking taboos. Though Sandra was M.I.A. for awhile, some new episodes were released in the last few months, you’ll learn a lot just listening to the archives.
You’ll want comedian Nicole Byer to be your best friend after you listen to Why Won’t You Date Me?, in which she brings on other comedians and writers to talk about the nitty gritty of their relationships and dating lives. She also gets really frank about her own lack of long-term relationship experience and her time on the battlefields of Tinder, and the results are relatable and laugh-out-loud funny.
This one is almost like a sexy travel show, where host Chris Sowa hits a different city per episode (“Sex in Tokyo,” “Valentine’s Day in Amsterdam’s Main Red Light District”) to have frank and funny conversations about the specific niches and cultures around sexuality in each one. Surprise, surprise: A city’s sex life can reveal a lot about the place itself.