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Should Women Over 30 (Like Me) Swear Off Younger Dudes?

A commenter writes in to tell me I'm wasting my time with younger dudes--that the vast majority of them will not give me the kind of long-term relationship I'm after. (Which begs the question: What kind of relaitonship am I after?) Peeps: What do you think? Is it  all right to date one or two younger men, tops, but should a lady of 30+ years move on after that? Or should I be looking for a connection, the age thing be damned? Or am I gonna end up 40, 45, 50-- lonely and miserable--with that kind of attitude?

3 Ways to Gain Power (By Granting Approval) in a Flirtation

Being too eager to win anyone's approval is a big turn-off. Dating coach John Keegan has pointers on how you can avoid falling into the approval trap--and how you can turn things around, so that you're the powerful one who is bestowing (or withholding) approval.

Raising the Stakes for the Date with Hot Band Guy

I'm going to make Hot Band Guy fill out a post-date questionnaire that I'll let all of you read. Soo ... what shall we ask him? What do you want to know about the dating patterns of hot band guys? And what do you want him to tell you about me?

Giving a Dude a Second Chance--What Should the Criteria Be?

Two different guys asked me out for second dates over the weekend, and I refused them--only to be chastised by Arlo (once again) (in private rather than on than on my blog, this time) for not giving people a fair shot. ... Which has gotten me thinking: Am I too picky when it comes to nice guys--and not picky enough when it comes to getting hung up on players like Baby Fireman? Why do I turn down nearly every dude who asks me out for a second date? Do I automatically discount anyone who seems too into me? And should I resolve to give everyone who asks me a second date from now on?

10 Insights That Will Help You Flirt with Nerds

The dude who runs "Nerd Nite Speed-Dating" gives us some insights on how to win over hot geeks.

 

 

A Hot Dude Blogs About Me Blogging About Him!

A musician I've flirted with recently blogs about me blogging about him! And then emails me to tell me about it. Ooops!

Speed-Dating! With the Nerds!

Last night, I lost my speed-dating virginity ... at Nerd Nite. (Don't laugh. Nerdiness ages well!)

Are Cell Phones Ruining Our Chances for Real Love?

The New York Times recently ran an article that indicated that texting is helping to erode the fabric of society. Is technology improving our sex lives while destroying our chances for meaningful relationships and long-term happiness?

4 Subjects to Avoid on A First Date

In the (darkly funny) movie HAPPINESS, two characters are out on their first date when the woman tells the dude about how she killed her doorman. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that's better left to the SECOND date. ... What other topics should you skip till you get to know each other better?

7 Ways to Dress More Flirtatiously

The owner of FLIRT (one of my favorite stores here in Brooklyn) shares her insights on how to dress with a little attention-getting flair.

The Power of Negative Thinking: A Good Idea?

I invite a dude to hang out with me and my friends ... and after getting his response, I have to wonder if negative-thinking might help toughen me up and make living flirtatiously easier.

A Good Way to Contact Someone Who Didn't Get My Digits?

You guys remember Mr. Tweed Jeans--he of the extended flirtation at a party two weekends ago? He who, despite seeming to be quite interested and talking to me for, like, 30 minutes, didn't get my number when I said I was taking off? Yeah, well, I invited him to hang with me and some friends ... and ... 

5 Hilarious Flirtatious E-Cards

A new site has the funniest e-cards I've ever come across. There's one you can send to an office crush, one you can send to that great guy you just went on a first date with ... and a couple that would be appropriately inappropriate for the dude you're shagging. Which ones are your favorites? (Fair warning: Some of them are a little dirty.)

Two More Things NOT To Do When Picking Up a Guy

I did everything wrong on Saturday night, when trying to pick up a painter from Portland, Oregon--including telling him about some of the other romantic entanglements in my life. Can you guess how this debacle turned out?

5 Things NOT to Do When Picking Up A Guy

Please don't try any of the maneuvers I pulled on Saturday night. Today, I'll tell you about the first three of them ... and tomorrow, I'll finish off my Halloween saga.

Does True Love Make Us Ready to Commit?

Or do we have to be ready before we can find it? I sort of feel like I could love Barnaby Jepperdoom--maybe--if I let myself. (Let's keep that between you and me, shall we?) But do I still have commitment-phobia? Or is it more that when you find the person who is REALLy right, you don't have to talk yourself into getting serious--it just happens?

Is It Time for Me to Give Up on a Certain You-Know-Who?

Am I being kind of pathetic at this point? ... Also, I still don't have a Halloween costume, despite the fact that I had 5 sexy possibilities lined up last week. What should I be? What are you guys gonna be?

Is Playing Hard to Get Really The Way to Go?

Sort of--according to a recent study. But you have to play in a very specific way.

Did I Rock the "Who Are You?" Interview?

Saturday night party. The cutest dude in the room asks me what I do, and I say: "Why don't you guess?" Then we talk for a good thirty minutes ... but ...

Subverting the Usual (Boring) Get-to-Know-You Q's

When we meet someone new, we always want to know his (or her) name, job and hometown. And yet asking those questions can make you come off like a boor--like you're conducting a job interview instead of really getting to know someone. Dating coach John Keegan comes to the rescue! Ask the Big Three Q's according to his suggestions and a person will feel intrigued, not interrogated.

 

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Though she's in her thirties, she's never been in love before - and has started to wonder if she ever will be. She's decided she has to start making dating her job if it's ever going to happen. Hence, this blog.

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Maura Kelly is a freelance writer who is working on a novel. She rides her vintage Raleigh as often as possible - usually wearing heels, and always wearing her helmet. (She will not be a fashion victim!)
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