Most people in Hollywood are all about the attention. Whether it's good press or bad press, it's press. However, these couples prefer to keep their PDA to a minimum, so much so we...kinda forgot about them? And that's not a bad thing. Here, a few—okay, 50—couples who would rather keep things off Instagram and heat things up IRL instead. By how in love they all are, something is clearly working.
Diane Kruger, 43, and Norman Reedus, 50
How long they've been together: Kruger and Reedus met in 2015 on the set of the indie film, Sky. Throughout the following months rumors swirled about the duo, made even more salacious as Kruger had just broken up with her boyfriend of 10 years, Joshua Jackson. They didn't make their red carpet debut until the 2018 Golden Globes.
Why you forgot they're together: Between the laid-back attitude of these famous actors and the relentless speculation of whether they were together at the beginning of their relationship, it's easy to forget that they are, indeed, an item. In November 2018, the couple became parents to a baby girl, but in the interest of privacy, have not revealed any details.
Gwyneth Paltrow, 47, and Brad Falchuk, 48
How long they've been together: The couple met in 2014 on the set of Glee—she was a guest star, he was the show's co-creator—and began dating shortly after in April of that year.
Why you forgot they're together: The notoriously private couple didn't reveal their relationship until they'd been dating for well over a year. Both were previously married, so they took their time to tie the knot and now have a unique living situation where they're only together four nights a week. Despite their unconventional arrangement, they seem to be doing well according to their Instagram snaps.
Lili Reinhart, 23, and Cole Sprouse, 27
How long they've been together: No one knows exactly, because the costars are notoriously private about their relationship. The actors stated previously that they would never officially confirm or deny their private relationship. So when they arrived on the red carpet at the 2018 Met Gala, fans just about lost it.
Why you forgot they're together: Despite their poetic words to one another on Instagram, Reinhart and Sprouse are able to keep a low profile since they film Riverdale in Canada. There were rumors these two broke up earlier this year, but they have confirmed that they are, indeed, together.
Taran Killam, 37, and Cobie Smulders, 37
How long they've been together: 14 years. That's an achievement in Hollywood. The two met at a mutual friend's birthday party when they were just 22 years old.
Why you forgot they're together: Both famous in their own right—Smulders starred on How I Met Your Mother and Killam is known for his run on Saturday Night Live—the actors prefer to keep their personal lives out of the spotlight. Since saying "I do" in 2012, they've welcomed two children together.
Taraji P. Henson, 49, and Kelvin Hayden, 36
How long they’ve been together: They started dating in 2015 and Hayden popped the question on Mother’s Day 2018. Please defer to Henson’s engagement announcement (spoiler alert: Hayden’s gift-game is strong).
Why you forgot they’re together: Henson rarely shares information about her private life, but she posts the occasional (super-cute) Instagram of her fiancé (an NFL star). If you don’t follow her on the ‘gram, odds are you aren’t in the know.
Meryl Streep, 70, and Don Gummer, 72
How long they've been together: Streep stayed with Gummer, a friend of her brother's, in his New York apartment while filming Kramer vs. Kramer. The actress had just lost her boyfriend to lung cancer and turned to the sculptor for support. After a brief courtship, Streep and Gummer got married in September 1978. More than 40 years later, the couple is still going strong.
Why you forget they're together: Although she's renowned for her film career, Streep likes to keep her private life out of the public eye. The couple leads a relatively normal life on their estate in Connecticut and are the parents of three daughters.
Alicia Vikander, 31, and Michael Fassbender, 42
How long they've been together: After falling in love on the set of their film The Light Between Two Oceans in 2014, the two A-list actors tied the knot in a secret ceremony in the summer of 2017.
Why you forgot they're together: They're one of the most elusive couples in Hollywood, making very few public appearances together and remaining tight-lipped about their relationship. "I think we've made a clear statement that we keep certain things just between us. It was very easy to unite, but that's quite personal," Fassbender told Entertainment Weekly.
Harrison Ford, 77, and Calista Flockhart, 55
How long they've been together: The actors met at the Golden Globe Awards in 2002 and have been together ever since. After getting engaged on Valentine's Day in 2009, the couple got married a year later.
Why you forgot they're together: Despite a 22-year age gap, Ford and Flockhart seem to make it work thanks to their laid-back lifestyle and unwavering support for one another. Ford, who has children from his previous marriage, has taken on the role of father to Flockhart's 18-year-old son, Liam. "Harrison and Calista are all about family life. Their life before and after they got married is focused on Liam," an insider told People.
Leighton Meester, 33, and Adam Brody, 39
How long they've been together: They confirmed they were dating in 2013 after meeting on the set of The Oranges in 2011. They married in a private ceremony in February 2014 and welcomed a baby girl in August 2015.
Why you forget they're together: The couple has kept their relationship under wraps on purpose. Both had dealt with public breakups before, she with Sebastian Stan in 2010 and Brody with Rachel Bilson in 2006.
Amanda Seyfried, 33, and Thomas Sadoski, 43
How long they've been together: Although they fell in love on the set of The Last Word in 2016, Seyfried and Sadoski had previously worked together on Broadway while they were both in other relationships. "[He] never flirted, never disrespected his wife. That was another reason why I thought, later on, that I could marry him," Seyfried told Porter Magazine. Now, married since 2017, the couple are parents to daughter Nina.
Why you forgot they're together: After some high-profile breakups, Seyfried and Sadoski prefer to keep their relationship as private as their wedding ceremony–which included a two-person ceremony, a Free People dress, and a reception at their neighborhood café.
Salma Hayek, 53, and François-Henri Pinault, 57
How long they've been together: We know Hayek and Pinault met in 2006 at a charity gala in Venice and that they announced their pregnancy and engagement at the same time in 2007, but there isn't much more the couple is willing to share. "It's such a romantic, amazing story, but it is mine. I don't want to vulgarize it by making it into a story to make myself interesting," Hayek told Town and Country in 2019.
Why you forgot they're together: Hayek and Pinault are incredibly supportive of one another on the red carpet, but they like to create boundaries around their personal lives.
Sarah Paulson, 44, and Holland Taylor, 76
How long have they been together: The pair started dating quietly in 2015. They had known each other for a long time and seen each other around the Warner Bros. set, but it wasn't until about 10 years after they met that the two united again: Paulson responded to a tweet in which Taylor seemed down and the rest is history.
Why you forgot they're together: Paulson and Taylor are the epitome of under the radar! The two always support each other on the red carpet, but prefer to keep their private life to themselves.
Zoë Kravitz, 30, and Karl Glusman, 31
How long they've been together: Kravitz and Glusman were introduced in 2016 by mutual friends. She was smitten from the start and the two have shared sweet love notes on Instagram that melt our hearts.
Why you forgot they're together: The pair is insanely low-key. We barely knew about they were thinking of tying the knot before they surprised everyone with a wedding announcement in May of 2019.
Jim Parsons, 46, and Todd Spiewak, 42
How long they've been together: Since meeting on a blind date in 2002, Spiewak has been by The Big Bang Theory star's side during his astronomical rise to fame. After 11 years and plenty of speculation, the two were married in 2017.
Why you forgot they're together: The couple takes to Instagram with cute snaps for anniversaries and such, but Parsons avoids divulging too much about his personal life in interviews.
Helen Mirren, 74, and Taylor Hackford, 74
How long they've been together: Mirren met her director husband, Hackford, when she was 38 years old. "I did very consciously choose my work over my relationships right up to the time that I met Taylor," Mirren told AARP Magazine. The two married in 1997, 10 years after they started dating.
Why you forgot they're a couple: With such accolades as a Damed actress and an Academy Award-winning film director, Mirren and Hackford are the definition of a heavy-hitter Hollywood couple. Yet they are more than happy keeping a low profile.
Emma Stone, 31, and Dave McCary, 34
How long they've been together: The actress began dating the Saturday Night Live segment director in October 2017, but the two have managed to stay majorly under the radar.
Why you forgot they're together: Stone and McCary haven't made their red carpet debut together yet. Although their two year relationship has been seemingly going well—engagement rumors have been swirling recently—we may always be in the dark about their relationship.
Rami Malek, 38, and Lucy Boynton, 25
How long they've been together: The couple met in 2018 on the set of the Oscar-winning biopic, Bohemian Rhapsody, where they were in an on-screen relationship.
Why you forgot they're together: Although the couple shined throughout 2019's awards season, things seem to have settled for Malek and Boynton. They've since traded red carpet photo ops for casual New York City strolls, which seems to be more their speed.
Alexis Bledel, 38, and Vincent Kartheiser, 40
How long they’ve been together: They’ve been linked since 2012 (after meeting on the set of Mad Men), followed by a 2013 engagement and a private California wedding in 2014. The couple has also gone to serious lengths to protect their son’s privacy.
Why you forgot they’re together: The down-to-earth couple don’t usually flaunt their relationship in public—considering the fact that they started as co-stars, the two know how to keep it professional.
Matt Smith, 37, and Lily James, 30
How long they've been together: The pair have been inseparable since first meeting on the set of Pride and Prejudice and Zombies in 2014. A year later, they confirmed their relationship with their red carpet appearance at the premiere of Cinderella.
Why you forgot they're together: James and Smith started dating prior to their relative success in the United States (thanks to their roles on hit shows like Downton Abbey and The Crown). The pair tends to keep things between them hush hush, while leading a seemingly normal life together in London.
Rachel Brosnahan, 29, and Jason Ralph, 33
How long they've been together: Although the stars have kept mum about how they met, Brosnahan and Ralph were first linked in 2015.
Why you forgot they're together: Brosnahan's profile has significantly grown with her success on The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, so it wasn't surprising when reports began speculating that the longtime couple had tied the knot in 2018. What was surprising? That the couple had actually already been married for a long time—but they haven't revealed how long.
Alicia Keys, 38, and Swizz Beats, 41
How long they’ve been together: They’ve been linked since 2008 and got engaged two years later. The couple have two kids of their own, and Keys is the step-mother to Kasseem Dean's (a.k.a. Swiss Beats') three children from his previous marriage.
Why you forgot they’re together: Keys and Swiss are notoriously quiet about their personal life and have a knack for leaving us wanting much more (especially after cute Instagrams like this).
Ellen Page, 32, and Emma Portner, 24
How long they've been together: After first being linked in 2017, Page and Portner made their red carpet debut at the premiere of Flatliners that same year. The couple surprised fans in 2018 when they announced that they had secretly wed.
Why you forgot they're together: Despite Instagram and red carpet appearances, Page hasn't spoken much about her relationship with the dancer and choreographer.
Zoe Saldana, 41, and Marco Perego, 40
How long they’ve been together: The couple began dating and wed in 2013, although Saldana says they had known each other for years. “I met my partner when I was in really a beautiful place in my life. It was like I found all my answers with him, not in him. I was finding my answers on my own,” she told Fashion magazine.
Why you forgot they’re together: Saldana and Perego got married after a few weeks of dating—they kept their relationship so quiet that most people didn’t know about it until they had already said ‘I do.’
Jamie Lee Curtis, 60, and Christopher Guest, 71
How long they've been together: Curtis and her husband of more than 30 years, Guest, have enjoyed a marriage that defies the celebrity divorce rate.
Why you forgot they're together: The couple, who were engaged only two months after their first date (they met through Hollywood connections), married in 1984 and have chosen to lead a private life.
Kiernan Shipka, 20, and Charlie Oldman, 20
How long they've been together: The young Hollywood stars haven't been together for long, but already their coy antics surrounding their relationship have people intrigued. They were first linked at Coachella in 2019 and have been spotted together a few times since.
Why you forgot they're together: The pair seems perfect together, but they're low-key at events and on social media, which helps keep them under the radar.
Penelope Cruz, 45, and Javier Bardem, 50
How long they've been together: They reportedly began dating in 2007 and married in 2010 in the Bahamas. You decide for yourself: with two beautifully thick Spanish accents, two Oscars, and two adorable children (we can only assume...the paparazzi has left the kids alone for the most part) between them, it's safe to say they qualify as really cute.
Why you forget they're together: After having her son, Leo, in 2011, Cruz, told Vogue: "I want my son—and my kids if I have more—to grow up in a way that is as anonymous as possible." Cruz and Bardem have taken this seriously: They welcomed a second child, daughter Luna, in 2013 to minimal fanfare.
Rachel Weisz, 49, and Daniel Craig, 51
How long they've been together: They wed in a secret ceremony in June 2011 with only four guests in attendance. In September 2018, Weisz gave birth to their first child.
Why you forget they're together: They're too famous to talk about. No, really. Weisz told More magazine in their December/January 2015 issue, "He's just too famous. It would be a betrayal" to talk about her marriage to Daniel Craig.
Kirsten Dunst, 37, and Jesse Plemons, 31
How long they’ve been together: The actors met on the set of Fargo season 2 and got together a year after, in 2016. “I loved Kirsten’s work for a long time, and I was really excited once I’d met her, and she’s a great person, and we’re both actors that just…have fun with the material,” Plemons said at PaleyFest in 2015.
Why you forgot they’re together: Dunst is typically pretty open about her relationships (she ended her very-public, long-term relationship with Garret Hedlund in 2016), so her quiet romance with Plemons has come as a surprise.
Margot Robbie, 29, and Tom Ackerley, 29
How long they’ve been together: The duo met on the set of Suite Franchise in 2013—Robbie was a supporting actress and Ackerley an assistant director. After moving from friends, to roommates, to an official couple, Margot and Ackerley wed in a secret ceremony in 2016. When asked about meeting Ackerley, Margot told Vogue, “We were friends for so long. I was always in love with him, but I thought, Oh, he would never love me back. Don’t make it weird, Margot…And then it happened, and I was like, Of course we’re together. This makes so much sense, the way nothing has ever made sense before.”
Why you forgot they’re together: One of the reasons Margot comes across as so cool and laid back is because, well, she really is that cool and laid back. The actress rarely posts photos with her producer husband, and they keep their red-carpet PDA to a minimum. (Though they look particularly cute here.)
Emily Ratajkowski, 28, and Sebastian Bear McClard, 32
How long they’ve been together: Although the couple has reportedly known each other for years, they were only officially dating for just three weeks before their friends-only ceremony at City Hall in New York City in 2018. Fun fact: The bride was clad in a mustard-yellow suit and the best man was Josh Ostrovsky (a.k.a. The Fat Jew).
Why you forgot they’re together: Ratajkowski and Bear McClard got together fast—so much so that they were married before most people even knew they were an item.
Cameron Diaz, 47, and Benji Madden, 40
How long they've been together: They were first linked in May 2014, and got married in early January 2015.
Why you forget they're together: Diaz and Madden are a low-key couple only spotted doing similarly low-key things. They shy away from the red carpet and reserve any PDA for understated Instagram posts. Their wedding was so top-secret that it took place at their home in Beverly Hills.
Dave Franco, 34, and Alison Brie, 36
How long they've been together: They've been dating since early 2012 and got engaged in August 2015, followed by a 2017 wedding.
Why you forgot they're together: The married couple is so secretive they rarely appear together in public, including the Met Gala in 2015, when they walked the red carpet separately.
Emily Blunt, 36, and John Krasinski, 40
How long they've been together: The couple met at a restaurant through a mutual friend. Although Blunt didn't recognize him right away, she has since binged his show, The Office.
Why you forgot they're together: No one can question Blunt and Krasinski's ability to love it up on the red carpet, but the couple remains relatively quiet when it comes to their day-to-day lives.
Kerry Washington, 42, and Nnamdi Asomugha, 38
How long they've been together: They married in 2013 after three years of secretly dating. Their daughter, Isabelle, was born in April 2014 and son, Caleb, in 2016.
Why you forget they're together: Washington does not discuss her personal life publicly. She and Asomugha, a retired professional football player, have only been spotted together a few times since they started dating, including at the Kennedy Center Honors banquet in December 2015.
Natalie Portman, 38, and Benjamin Millepied, 42
How long they’ve been together: They met on the set of Black Swan in 2010—Millepied was the choreographer. During her acceptance speech for Best Actress at the 83rd Academy Awards in 2011, a then-pregnant Portman thanked Millepied with the sweetest mention. “My beautiful love, Benjamin Millepied, who choreographed the film and has now given me my most important role in my life,” she said.
Why you forgot they’re together: Even though Portman is a red-carpet regular, she’s fairly quiet about her personal life with her dancer husband.
Eva Mendes, 45, and Ryan Gosling, 39
How long they’ve been together: Mendes and Gosling were linked after meeting on the set of The Place Beyond the Pines in 2011. They’ve been very mum’s the word on their relationship timeline and haven't tied the knot (that we know of).
Why you forgot they’re together: They’re super-duper low profile when it comes to their relationship. Even though Mendes and Gosling have been together for years and have two children together, their public appearances are extremely rare (Mendes even skipped the 2017 Academy Awards—Gosling was nominated for Best Actor for La La Land—to stay at home with their girls, Esmeralda and Amada).
Isla Fisher, 43, and Sacha Baron Cohen, 48
How long they’ve been together: Fisher and Cohen met in 2002 and married in a traditional-but-small Jewish ceremony in 2010 (the guest list reportedly included six people).
Why you forgot they’re together: Although Fisher and Cohen have been together 17 years, they keep their family life relatively quiet. The equally-hilarious partners have made epic appearances together at awards shows, but intimate details surrounding their relationship and children are few-and-far-between.
Rose Byrne, 40, and Bobby Cannavale, 49
How long they've been together: They met in 2012. When Cannavale accepted his Emmy in 2013 for his role in Boardwalk Empire, he included the sweetest shout out: "And I want to thank the love of my life, Rose." *wipes tear*
Why you forget they're together: Other than the occasional red carpet appearance, Byrne and Cannavale are usually only photographed together around their Brooklyn neighborhood.
Jessica Alba, 38, and Cash Warren, 40
How long they’ve been together: They got together shortly after meeting on the set of Fantastic Four (Alba was starring as Sue Storm and Warren was working as a production assistant) in 2004 and wed in a courthouse ceremony in Beverly Hills in 2008. “Right after I met [Cash], I called my best friend and was like, ‘I met this guy and I feel like I’ve known him forever and I’m going to know him for the rest of my life,'” she told Cosmopolitan in 2010.
Why you forgot they’re together: Despite Alba’s A-list status, Warren is more of a behind-the-scenes-guy.
Mary-Kate Olsen, 33, and Olivier Sarkozy, 50
How long they’ve been together: They’ve been together since 2012 and tied the knot three years later. The wedding reception reportedly had “bowls” of cigarettes for guests, so there's that.
Why you forgot they’re together: The Olsen twins are notoriously private about their personal lives, so it isn’t much of a surprise that Mary-Kate keeps her marriage under wraps (other than rare PDA-filled appearances at sporting events).
Karlie Kloss, 27, and Josh Kushner, 34
How long they've been together: Since November 2012. The couple tied the knot in an intimate ceremony in October 2018, then threw a second wedding in June.
Why you forget they're together: They have very few PDA-moments, but maybe that's because they're both so busy? Kushner, the son of real-estate mogul Charles Kushner and the younger brother of Ivanka Trump's hubby, Jared, is an Ivy League grad and the co-founder of Oscar Insurance. Kloss is a globetrotting supermodel and the founder of Kode with Karlie, a scholarship for young women studying coding and computer science.
Paul Dano, 35, and Zoe Kazan, 36
How long they've been together: They have been dating since 2007. Scope this: In 2012, Dano described his girlfriend as "beautiful, smart, funny and super talented." Men of the world, take note.
Why you forgot they're together: Because you'd have to be a die-hard indie fan to realize that these two were a couple. Dano, who was nominated for a Golden Globe for 2014's Love & Mercy, and Kazan, who was nominated for an Emmy in 2014, have also both appeared in a number of stage productions.
Julia Roberts, 52, and Danny Moder, 50
How long they’ve been together: The duo met on the set of The Mexican in 2000 and got married in 2002. They have three children together—Hazel, Phinnaeus, and Henry Daniel.
Why you forgot they’re together: Roberts has a history of public relationships (the actress was engaged to Kiefer Sutherland, briefly married to Lyle Lovett, and dated celebrities like Benjamin Bratt), but her 17-year-long marriage with Moder is notoriously private. Roberts usually walks the red carpet solo and shares little personal information to the press.
Kate Bosworth, 36, and Michael Polish, 49
How long they’ve been together: They met on the set of Big Sur in 2011 (which Polish directed and Bosworth starred in) and married two years later in Montana. Bosworth says they were careful to keep their relationship professional in the beginning, though. “'There are so many people that hook up on movies, and you wonder if that's real, so we didn't go there" she told Marie Claire UK. “I think we were both experienced to know that if this was the real deal, we could wait to see what would happen."
Why you forgot they’re together: Bosworth had a few high-profile relationships with celebrities like Alexander Skarsgård and Orlando Bloom, so her relationship with director Polish has seemed quiet in comparison.
Maya Rudolph, 47, and Paul Thomas Anderson, 49
How long they’ve been together: Although they've never officially tied the knot (as far as we know), they’ve been together since 2001 and have four children.
Why you forgot they’re together: Although the iconic actress-director duo has been together since the early aughts, they’re rarely seen in public together. Other than a few red carpet cameos, it’s difficult to find photos of Rudolph and Anderson.
Amber Tamblyn, 36, and David Cross, 55
How long they've been together: They got engaged in August 2011 and married on October 6, 2012, but their first encounter was on a flight. Tamblyn, a fan of Cross, was staring at him until they changed seats to sit next to each other. The rest is history.
Why you forgot they're together: Because the idea of Tibby Rollins from The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants and Tobias Fünke from Arrested Development together—married no less—seems unreal.
Carey Mulligan, 34, and Marcus Mumford, 32
How long they've been together: They got engaged in August 2011 after five months of dating, followed by an April 2012 wedding. Fun fact: They met when they were pen pals as children and reconnected years later.
Why you forget they're together: Maybe it's their work ethic. Mulligan had the couple's first child in September 2016 and was on a press tour only five weeks later, with Mumford by her side but only behind the scenes. Since, Mulligan and Mumford have welcomed their second child.
Hilarie Burton, 37, and Jeffrey Dean Morgan, 53
How long they’ve been together: The two started dating in 2009 but didn’t make their red carpet debut until 2010 (which was after they welcomed their first child together).
Why you forgot they’re together: Burton and Morgan don’t hide their relationship, but their equally low-key personalities have allowed their relationship to fly relatively under the radar. The couple, who lives on a farm in upstate New York, only recently tied the knot in an intimate, yet gushy, ceremony.
Joseph Gordon-Levitt, 38, and Tasha McCauley
How long they’ve been together: Gordon-Levitt claimed he was off the market in 2013 and the couple were wed in a secret ceremony in 2014. They have two kids together.
Why you forgot they’re together: They’re basically the gold standard when it comes to discretion—Gordon-Levitt rarely (if ever) talks about his marriage to the businesswoman or their children with the press and has maintained his privacy for most of his career.
