The recipes? Check. The ingredients? Check. The set table? Check. Hours in the kitchen toiling over a hot stove? No problem. Your guests' smiles upon finishing the feast? It is those responses that will make you do just about anything to carve out this holiday as your own.
"Nurturers can even get mad if someone else steps up to the plate to prepare the meal," Yarrow says. "For a nurturer, their pride in their identity is associated with caring and what they can provide to their family and friends. They love having a lot of stuff to do, putting all of those dishes on the table, and getting feedback."
Who else enjoys fall’s biggest banquet? Nurturees, of course. "It’s also the lazy holiday," Yarrow adds. "You can also be that person who just loves to sit back, be served, eat, and watch TV."
Santa Claus is not the only one making a list and checking it twice. You also have diligently gathered the gifts, the goodies, the wrapping, the ribbons, the lights, the candles, and all the tokens and trinkets that have come to symbolize the end-of-the-year holidays, no matter how you celebrate them. "I interview consumers all the time who collect stuff for Christmas and Hanukkah year-round," Yarrow says. "For them, they are obsessed with taking the time to hone and perfect the collection. Then they finally get to put it on display, which is very much like putting their own personality on display."
Collecting isn’t confined to material objects, either. "For most families, every year introduces new traditions," Yarrow explains. "For many people, they can’t celebrate without these traditions. It’s one of the ways they honor the fundamental values of family."