By Susie Moore published
Reality check: Successful women choose their words wisely because they know words have power. Here, six statements you'll never ever hear them say:
The bottom line is that the brightest women are the most resourceful. They might not know how to do something, especially if it is something new, but they figure it out. They observe others who do it, they ask questions and they research. Then they get it done! We can all figure out how to do something if we make it our business to learn.
We all have 24 hours in a day—you, me, and Oprah Winfrey. It's up to us to decide how we prioritize and spend these hours. To say you don't have time for something really means you don't want to do it. A much more productive way of communicating your timing needs is being direct. Try these:
"I can take that project on but I will need [X amount of time] to complete it."
"Right now my focus is on X and X, perhaps Sarah is better placed to take this on at this time?"
It may seem contradictory but there is an art to saying no. We can't be all things to all people all the time. We cannot commit and attend every meeting, event, and conference that we are invited to. Saying no, kindly, is a successful woman's best friend. Thank the person for thinking of you but keep your plate manageable.
Let's be honest, who really believes they get paid "enough" for what they do? That being said, smart women do not project a disgruntled attitude. They know that in the end more money comes as a result of going the extra mile, not the other way around. This is a defeatist and destructive comment that you should never let a manager overhear!
You've probably heard time and time again that life's not fair. Successful women do not expect it to be. They use their power to drive change and focus on what they can do, not what a victim they are. You can bet that sometimes people will get promoted over you, your boss will take credit for your work, and male counterparts will have a higher pay. Successful women decide what they will stand for and waste no time complaining.
This is like a badge of honor in New York City. It's nuts! Sorry but the joke's on you, Miss I-work-52-weeks-a-year. Have you ever noticed how company CEOs and executives always take vacation days? Successful women make their personal time a priority and know the importance of recharging. It's crucial to our sanity, stamina, and creativity. A burnt out and fatigued colleague or leader is last on our list when we think about success and what it really means.
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