Most people in Hollywood are all about the attention. Whether it's good press or bad press, it's press. However, these couples prefer to keep their PDA to a minimum, so much so we...kinda forgot about them? And that's not a bad thing. Here, a few—okay, 33—couples who would rather keep things off Instagram and heat things up IRL instead. By how in love they all are, something is clearly working.
How long they've been together: Zoë and Karl were introduced in 2016 by mutual friends. She was smitten from the start and the two have shared sweet love notes on Instagram that melt our hearts.
Why you forgot they're together: The pair is insanely low-key. We barely knew about they were thinking of tying the knot before they surprised everyone with a wedding announcement in May of 2019.
How long have they been together: The pair started dating quietly in 2015. They had known each other for a long time and seen each other around the Warner Bros. set, but it wasn't until about 10 years after they met that the two united again: Paulson responded to a tweet in which Taylor seemed down and the rest is history.
Why you forgot they're together: Paulson and Taylor are the epitome of under the radar! The two always support each other on the red carpet, but prefer to keep their private life to themselves.
How long they have been together: The couple reportedly met back in October of 2016, but do not confirm their relationship until May of 2017. And it isn't until June that they are photographed together. In August of 2019 rumors started to circulate the pair may be engaged.
Why you forget they're together: They literally don't want anyone to know their business. And honestly, can you blame them? Taylor has been through it! It makes complete sense she has decided to keep this relationship under wraps. Seriously guys, there are only like two photos of them together at events.
How long they've been together: They confirmed they were dating in 2013 after meeting on the set of The Oranges in 2011. They married in a private ceremony in February 2014 and welcomed a baby girl in August 2015.
Why you forget they're together: The couple has kept their relationship under wraps on purpose. Both had dealt with public breakups before, she with Sebastian Stan in 2010 and Brody with Rachel Bilson in 2006.
How long they've been together: They reportedly began dating in 2007 and married in 2010 in the Bahamas. You decide for yourself: with two beautifully thick Spanish accents, two Oscars, and two adorable children (we can only assume...the paparazzi has left the kids alone for the most part) between them, it's safe to say they qualify as really cute.
Why you forget they're together: After having her son, Leo, in 2011, Cruz, told Vogue: "I want my son—and my kids if I have more—to grow up in a way that is as anonymous as possible." Cruz and Bardem have taken this seriously: They welcomed a second child, daughter Luna, in 2013 to minimal fanfare.
How long they've been together: They wed in a secret ceremony in June 2011 with only four guests in attendance. In September 2018, Weisz gave birth to their first child.
Why you forget they're together: They're too famous to talk about. No, really. Weisz told More magazine in their December/January 2015 issue, "He's just too famous. It would be a betrayal" to talk about her marriage to Daniel Craig.
How long they’ve been together: The actors met on the set of Fargo season 2 and got together a year after, in 2016. “I loved Kirsten’s work for a long time, and I was really excited once I’d met her, and she’s a great person, and we’re both actors that just…have fun with the material,” Plemons said at PaleyFest in 2015.
Why you forgot they’re together: Dunst is typically pretty open about her relationships (she ended her very-public, long-term relationship with Garret Hedlund in 2016), so her quiet romance with Plemons has come as a surprise.
How long they’ve been together: They started dating in 2015 and Hayden popped the question on Mother’s Day 2018. Please defer to Henson’s engagement announcement (spoiler alert: Hayden’s gift-game is strong).
Why you forgot they’re together: Henson rarely shares information about her private life, but she posts the occasional (super-cute) Instagram of her fiancé (an NFL star). If you don’t follow her on the ‘gram, odds are you aren’t in the know.
How long they’ve been together: They’ve been linked since 2012 (after meeting on the set of Mad Men), followed by a 2013 engagement and a private California wedding in 2014. The couple has also gone to serious lengths to protect their son’s privacy.
Why you forgot they’re together: The down-to-earth couple don’t usually flaunt their relationship in public—considering the fact that they started as co-stars, the two know how to keep it professional.
How long they’ve been together: The duo met on the set of Suite Franchise in 2013—Robbie was a supporting actress and Ackerley an assistant director. After moving from friends, to roommates, to an official couple, Margot and Ackerley wed in a secret ceremony in 2016. When asked about meeting Ackerley, Margot told Vogue, “We were friends for so long. I was always in love with him, but I thought, Oh, he would never love me back. Don’t make it weird, Margot…And then it happened, and I was like, Of course we’re together. This makes so much sense, the way nothing has ever made sense before.”
Why you forgot they’re together: One of the reasons Margot comes across as so cool and laid back is because, well, she really is that cool and laid back. The actress rarely posts photos with her producer husband, and they keep their red-carpet PDA to a minimum. (Though they look particularly cute here.)
How long they’ve been together: Although the couple has reportedly known each other for years, they were only officially dating for just three weeks before their friends-only ceremony at City Hall in New York City in 2018. Fun fact: The bride was clad in a mustard-yellow suit and the best man was Josh Ostrovsky (a.k.a. The Fat Jew).
Why you forgot they’re together: Ratajkowski and Bear McClard got together fast—so much so that they were married before most people even knew they were an item.
How long they've been together: They were first linked in May 2014, and got married in early January 2015.
Why you forget they're together: Diaz and Madden are a low-key couple only spotted doing similarly low-key things. They shy away from the red carpet and reserve any PDA for understated Instagram posts. Their wedding was so top-secret that it took place at their home in Beverly Hills.
How long they've been together: They've been dating since early 2012 and got engaged in August 2015, followed by a 2017 wedding.
Why you forgot they're together: The married couple is so secretive they rarely appear together in public, including the Met Gala in 2015, when they walked the red carpet separately.
How long they've been together: They married in 2013 after three years of secretly dating. Their daughter, Isabelle, was born in April 2014 and son, Caleb, in 2016.
Why you forget they're together: Washington does not discuss her personal life publicly. She and Asomugha, a retired professional football player, have only been spotted together a few times since they started dating, including at the Kennedy Center Honors banquet in December 2015.
How long they've been together: At least since 2013, the first time Larson mentioned Greenwald.
Why you forget they're together: Maybe you never even knew they were a couple, but you definitely know them apart. Larson starred in a long list of indie films before 2015's Room, which led to a Best Actress Oscar. Greenwald is a musician, most notably a former member of the band Phantom Planet (as in the group of geniuses responsible for The O.C.'s epic theme song).
How long they’ve been together: They met on the set of Black Swan in 2010—Millepied was the choreographer. During her acceptance speech for Best Actress at the 83rd Academy Awards in 2011, a then-pregnant Portman thanked Millepied with the sweetest mention. “My beautiful love, Benjamin Millepied, who choreographed the film and has now given me my most important role in my life,” she said.
Why you forgot they’re together: Even though Portman is a red-carpet regular, she’s fairly quiet about her personal life with her dancer husband.
How long they’ve been together: They’ve been linked since 2008 and got engaged two years later. The couple have two kids of their own, and Keys is the step-mother to Kasseem Dean's (a.k.a. Swiss Beats') three children from his previous marriage.
Why you forgot they’re together: Keys and Swiss are notoriously quiet about their personal life and have a knack for leaving us wanting much more (especially after cute Instagrams like this).
How long they’ve been together: Mendes and Gosling were linked after meeting on the set of The Place Beyond the Pines in 2011. They’ve been very mum’s the word on their relationship timeline and haven't tied the knot (that we know of).
Why you forgot they’re together: They’re super-duper low profile when it comes to their relationship. Even though Mendes and Gosling have been together for years and have two children together, their public appearances are extremely rare (Mendes even skipped the 2017 Academy Awards—Gosling was nominated for Best Actor for La La Land—to stay at home with their girls, Esmeralda and Amada).
How long they’ve been together: Fisher and Cohen met in 2002 and married in a traditional-but-small Jewish ceremony in 2010 (the guest list reportedly included six people).
Why you forgot they’re together: Although Fisher and Cohen have been together 17 years, they keep their family life relatively quiet. The equally-hilarious partners have made epic appearances together at awards shows, but intimate details surrounding their relationship and children are few-and-far-between.
How long they've been together: They met in 2012. When Cannavale accepted his Emmy in 2013 for his role in Boardwalk Empire, he included the sweetest shout out: "And I want to thank the love of my life, Rose." *wipes tear*
Why you forget they're together: Other than the occasional red carpet appearance, Byrne and Cannavale are usually only photographed together around their Brooklyn neighborhood.
How long they’ve been together: They got together shortly after meeting on the set of Fantastic Four (Alba was starring as Sue Storm and Warren was working as a production assistant) in 2004 and wed in a courthouse ceremony in Beverly Hills in 2008. “Right after I met [Cash], I called my best friend and was like, ‘I met this guy and I feel like I’ve known him forever and I’m going to know him for the rest of my life,'” she told Cosmopolitan in 2010.
Why you forgot they’re together: Despite Alba’s A-list status, Warren is more of a behind-the-scenes-guy.
How long they’ve been together: They’ve been together since 2012 and tied the knot three years later. The wedding reception reportedly had “bowls” of cigarettes for guests, so there's that.
Why you forgot they’re together: The Olsen twins are notoriously private about their personal lives, so it isn’t much of a surprise that Mary-Kate keeps her marriage under wraps (other than rare PDA-filled appearances at sporting events).
How long they've been together: Since November 2012. The couple tied the knot in an intimate ceremony in October 2018, then threw a second wedding in June.
Why you forget they're together: They have very few PDA-moments, but maybe that's because they're both so busy? Kushner, the son of real-estate mogul Charles Kushner and the younger brother of Ivanka Trump's hubby, Jared, is an Ivy League grad and the co-founder of Oscar Insurance. Kloss is a globetrotting supermodel and the founder of Kode with Karlie, a scholarship for young women studying coding and computer science.
How long they’ve been together: The couple began dating and wed in 2013, although Saldana says they had known each other for years. “I met my partner when I was in really a beautiful place in my life. It was like I found all my answers with him, not in him. I was finding my answers on my own,” she told Fashion magazine.
Why you forgot they’re together: Saldana and Perego got married after a few weeks of dating—they kept their relationship so quiet that most people didn’t know about it until they had already said ‘I do.’
How long they've been together: They have been dating since 2007. Scope this: In 2012, Dano described his girlfriend as "beautiful, smart, funny and super talented." Men of the world, take note.
Why you forgot they're together: Because you'd have to be a die-hard indie fan to realize that these two were a couple. Dano, who was nominated for a Golden Globe for 2014's Love & Mercy, and Kazan, who was nominated for an Emmy in 2014, have also both appeared in a number of stage productions.
How long they’ve been together: The duo met on the set of The Mexican in 2000 and got married in 2002. They have three children together—Hazel, Phinnaeus, and Henry Daniel.
Why you forgot they’re together: Roberts has a history of public relationships (the actress was engaged to Kiefer Sutherland, briefly married to Lyle Lovett, and dated celebrities like Benjamin Bratt), but her 17-year-long marriage with Moder is notoriously private. Roberts usually walks the red carpet solo and shares little personal information to the press.
How long they’ve been together: They met on the set of Big Sur in 2011 (which Polish directed and Bosworth starred in) and married two years later in Montana. Bosworth says they were careful to keep their relationship professional in the beginning, though. “'There are so many people that hook up on movies, and you wonder if that's real, so we didn't go there" she told Marie Claire UK. “I think we were both experienced to know that if this was the real deal, we could wait to see what would happen."
Why you forgot they’re together: Bosworth had a few high-profile relationships with celebrities like Alexander Skarsgård and Orlando Bloom, so her relationship with director Polish has seemed quiet in comparison.
How long they’ve been together: Although they've never officially tied the knot (as far as we know), they’ve been together since 2001 and have four children.
Why you forgot they’re together: Although the iconic actress-director duo has been together since the early aughts, they’re rarely seen in public together. Other than a few red carpet cameos, it’s difficult to find photos of Rudolph and Anderson.
How long they've been together: They got engaged in August 2011 and married on October 6, 2012, but their first encounter was on a flight. Tamblyn, a fan of Cross, was staring at him until they changed seats to sit next to each other. The rest is history.
Why you forgot they're together: Because the idea of Tibby Rollins from The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants and Tobias Fünke from Arrested Development together—married no less—seems unreal.
How long they've been together: They got engaged in August 2011 after five months of dating, followed by an April 2012 wedding. Fun fact: They met when they were pen pals as children and reconnected years later.
Why you forget they're together: Maybe it's their work ethic. Mulligan had the couple's first child in September 2016 and was on a press tour only five weeks later, with Mumford by her side but only behind the scenes. Since, Mulligan and Mumford have welcomed their second child.