Will My Blog Actually Ruin My Dating Life?

Is Elevator Dude--and every other guy I meet this year!--going to be too freaked out by the blog to actually get into a relationship with me?


A reader wrote in yesterday--anonymously--to say: "Maura! Aren't you worried that any guy you go out on a date with--like Elevator Man (opens in new tab)--will google you, see your blog, realize HE is being written about ... and run for the hills???"

And the fact is ... I AM worried about that. Very, very worried. In fact, Elevator Man (opens in new tab) and I are currently trying to figure out when we'll have dinner, and every time there is a lapse in communication, I think: "Whelp, that's it, he's read the blog, he's terrified, and I'll never hear from him again."

Particularly because ... a while back, I went out with a guy (opens in new tab)who told me he'd dated a woman who blogged for Nerve (opens in new tab)--and that when he asked her not to blog about their relationship, she broke up with him!

Particularly because ... the other day, when I asked my friend Harry Berkeley (opens in new tab)* how he would feel if he found out a girl was a dating blogger, he flat out said: "I'd completely lose interest in her, no matter how cool she was."

Particularly because ... if the tables were turned, and I met a guy as honest and confessional as myself, and HE was a dating blogger, maybe I'd feel weird about it myself.

On the other hand, I'd probably only feel weird if he seemed mean-spirited--and why would I be interested in someone like that, anyway?

What's more, some dudes--like my ex-BF Jake Stein (opens in new tab)--get a kick out of seeing their names in lights (or, at least, in pixels).

And The Russian (opens in new tab) was actually really into the blog, and said that if we'd gotten into a relationship, he would've been quite excited about encouraging me to be as revealing as possible on it! (Of course, I get the feeling he was a bit of an exhibitionist ... but anyway ...)

And The Elevator Man (opens in new tab)--who is a writer himself, and figured out almost immediately I was a dating blogger--told me it sounded like a pretty cool job, and that he himself had been thinking he'd like to do something similar. So maybe he understands. Maybe he gets it.

That doesn't mean I don't think this is going to be interesting terrain to try to navigate. (And by "interesting" I mean completely freaking scary. By "interesting," I mean: This blog could very well come between me and the best man I'll ever find!)

At the same time, I'm confident--who me? confident?--well, yes, I'm confident that I'll figure out a way to handle all this. Maybe, readers, I'll have to say to you: "Look, for the sake of this growing relationship, I'm going to keep quiet about this thing for a week or two." (How would you feel about that?) Or, maybe, I'll be perfectly honest with you--and with the man in question--and the honesty will actually be great for everyone involved ... ?


Well, we'll see what happens as this story--and my life--progresses ...


*Porn-star name.