In the game of love, some will win and some will lose. And losing always hurts, especially when it happens on television for the entire world to see—just ask the runners-up of the ABC reality dating series The Bachelor (and Bachelorette). The series, which premiered all the way back in 2002, has since spawned several spinoffs and dozens of heartbreaks. Some contestants turned their lemons into lemonade, and others...well, they're still sour.
Here, we catch up with the runners-up from both The Bachelor and The Bachelorette to find out what and how they're doing after not finding love.
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Trista Rehn appeared on the first ever season of The Bachelor, competing against 24 other women for bachelor Alex Michel's love. The physical therapist and former Miami Heat dancer (get you a girl who can do both!) came in second to Amanda Marsh, but she didn't have too much time to be a sad girl™ about the breakup because soon after she started her own journey as the first bachelorette in ABC history.
Rehn's time on The Bachelorette led her to firefighter and total sweetheart Ryan Sutter, and the couple got married in 2003. Today, Rehn and Sutter are still married and now have two children who are a perfect mix (opens in new tab) of their genes.
Remember Charlie Maher? After failing to win Trista's heart on the first season of The Bachelorette, the California-born financial analyst (and actor (opens in new tab)!) pretty much disappeared into thin air, but do you blame him? He was rejected on live TV for the world to see!
The last we heard of Maher, he had tentatively started a new relationship (opens in new tab) and was looking forward to life after The Bachelorette. Same, brother. Same.
Brooke Smith left the University of Alabama as a senior to compete for Aaron Buerge's heart on the second season of The Bachelor. She juuust lost out to Helene Eksterowicz (although, TBH, "lose" is a relative thing, since Eksterowicz and Buerge broke up soon after their season ended). Deciding that she loved working in TV anyways, she went back to 'Bama, graduated, and pursued a long career in broadcast journalism. Which, get it, girl.
Smith joined Birmingham's WTVN (opens in new tab) in 2003 and continued working for them (including on a daytime talk show covering entertainment—irony!) at least through 2014; she last posted about her work in August 2019 on Insta (opens in new tab). Now, she's a yoga instructor and ultra-marathoner. She also got married and had two kids, so she did find her happy ending...once the cameras were off.
At only 23 years old, Kirsten Buschbacher fell in love with Firestone Tire and Rubber Company heir Andrew Firestone on the third season of The Bachelor. She didn't get the final rose—Andrew's family somehow had the impression that Buschbacher wasn't fully over her ex-boyfriend—but all's well that ends well. Buschbacher went on to pursue a career in acting, finding work in the off-Broadway production "Pieces (of Ass)" and even appearing in a documentary about reality TV stars. Now, Buschbacher has a thriving career on the corporate side of the retail industry.
Kelly Jo Kuharski
Again, "losing" this season might have been a blessing in disguise—Bob Guiney only gave winner Estella Gardinier a "promise ring," and the two broke up almost immediately afterwards. Kello Jo Kuharski had only signed up for The Bachelor because of a dare (opens in new tab) from her sister.
Today, the communication specialist is Kelly Jo Higgins and works for Rodan & Fields (opens in new tab). She's a mom to two kids, beauty entrepreneur (opens in new tab), and wife to former pro hockey player Matt Higgins. She figured out the influencer/beauty expert thing way, way before it was cool, TBH.
Unlike a lot of contestants later in the franchise, who might have come on the show hoping to boost their careers (*cough* Jed Wyatt *cough*), Hickl stayed far, far away from TV after he just missed out on Meredith Phillips' final rose (opens in new tab).
Hickl was the odds-on fave to win the season, so fans were shocked when Phillips picked Ian McKee instead. For his troubles, Hickl earned a "most eligible bachelor" title from People, and then he exited showbiz basically forever. He got married (opens in new tab) to a fellow Texan, Ellen McMillan, model and dance teacher. He doesn't have social media, but based on his wife's Insta (opens in new tab), he's sporting a fabulous beard and has two cute kiddos.
The general contractor from Oklahoma had one of the roughest exits (opens in new tab) in Bachelor history, throwing up from the limo ride, then yelling at Jesse Palmer for rejecting her. Since then, Huckeby has kept so low a profile that there's basically nothing online that people can find about her. So what she's up to lately will remain a mystery. Hope you're doing well, Tara!
In one of the weirder seasons of The Bachelor, the female contestants had to...vote on which man they wanted for their season? (That format did not last, natch.) The winner, Byron Velvick, ended up choosing Mary Delgado over Michel. She's now a coach and personal trainer (opens in new tab) with two adorable furbabies. She also appeared on a 20/20 special back in 2010 about the show and its most dramatic moments.
John Paul Merritt
The OG John Paul (a.k.a. the one who's NOT John Paul Jones) competed for Jen Schefft's heart in 2005 and lost to Jerry Ferris, art gallery director. Merritt is now CEO (opens in new tab) of Texas oil company Pony Oil and has a family. His Insta is private (sigh) but based on an article (opens in new tab) about his new home in 2018, he and his wife Kristi have four children. (Oh, and their new home is gorge.)
Having worked as a reporter for the New England Sports Network (NESN) prior to signing on for the seventh season of The Bachelor, Krisily Kennedy was no stranger to showbiz, so it was natural for her to continue being in the limelight even after she found herself as the runner-up for Charlie O'Connell's heart. Kennedy went on to join the short-lived spinoff Bachelor Pad but didn't last long.
These days, Kennedy is heavily involved in the television and film industry; she started her own entertainment blog and covers press junkets for Regal Cinemas. She also appears to be dating someone new (opens in new tab).
Dixon didn't get the final rose from Travis Stork—technically he didn't propose to the winner, Sarah Stone, either, though, so yea. (Remember how Stone was Stork's neighbor? I wonder if that ever got awkward.).
Dixon owns California-based design studio The Hunted Fox (opens in new tab) (she used to own it with her husband James North (opens in new tab) but the About page now only lists her). Her Insta is private (opens in new tab), so it's not clear what else she's up to these days.
Remember The Bachelor: Rome? No hard feelings if you don't—it wasn't the juiciest of seasons, but at least the locale was gorgeous! Season nine of The Bachelor took its contestants to Rome, Italy, to vie for the affections of cosmetics heir (and prince) Lorenzo Borghese. Among the group was Sadie Murray, a publicist from sunny California. She made it all the way to the end of the competition but ultimately lost out to Jennifer Wilson.
After her extended vacation in Italy, Murray returned and got right back to work. She's a popular influencer with her own blog and is also a TV personality who's appeared on shows like E! News (opens in new tab), and The Real (opens in new tab).
Bevin Nicole Powers
The Palo Alto–based clinic-research coordinator (opens in new tab) made it nearly to the end (opens in new tab) of Andrew Baldwin's season (and his mom liked her more than his final pick, Tessa Horst). But she said later she kinda knew what would happen: "I had this feeling that it wasn't going to be me," she explained. She now keeps a low profile—so low, that there's really nothing online about her these days.
Brad Womack made Bachelor history when he rejected both of his finalists, Jenni Croft and DeAnna Pappas. Heartbroken but not down for the count, Pappas became the next bachelorette and got engaged to professional snowboarder Jesse Csincsak.
The engagement didn't last long, however; the couple split just months after the show, leaving Pappas single again. She was able to find love off-the-air, however, with Stephen Stagliano, who just happens to be the twin brother of Michael Stagliano (from Jillian Harris's season of The Bachelorette). Talk about a crossover!
The former bachelorette can now be found sharing recipes and parenting advice on her lifestyle blog (opens in new tab).
Croft (opens in new tab), on the other hand, left the limelight for the most part. The former cheerleader got married, had three kids (who are all ridiculously cute (opens in new tab), btw), and is now the owner (opens in new tab) of Pretty Chic Unique Boutique. She still dances and recently shared an impressive fitness journey (opens in new tab). So her life's in a good place is what I'm saying.
The pharma rep from Colorado didn't end up winning British Bachelor Matt Grant's heart, and she's kept a low profile ever since. She does have an Instagram (opens in new tab) filled with her travels, though, and we know she lives in Ojai, California. She also seems to be interested in settling down (opens in new tab) at some point, but for now it looks like she has a fabulous jet-setting life.
Fans were initially introduced to Jason Mesnick on the fourth season of The Bachelorette, during which he almost won the love of DeAnna Papas. Less than a year later, he became the lead in the 13th season of The Bachelor. In what many consider to be one of the most dramatic breakups (opens in new tab) in the franchise's long history, Mesnick changed his mind after giving the final rose to Melissa Rycroft, deciding that he actually wanted to be with runner-up Molly Malaney...
...and the couple got married in February 2010, with their wedding airing in a two-hour special called The Bachelor: Jason and Molly's Wedding. Together with Mesnick's son Ty from a previous relationship and their daughter Riley, the Mesnicks are one big happy family (opens in new tab).
Kiptyn Locke competed on Jillian Harris's season, but his hesitation to propose to the Canadian bachelorette was likely what got him cut. (Side note: Why else did you come if not to propose?!) It was a shock to the heart, but with a stay in the Bachelor Pad, Locke made a full recovery. In the Bachelor spinoff, he coupled up with Tenley Molzahn (see next slide), and the two dated on-and-off for years before calling it quits for good.
Locke is now the proud father of a little boy name Koltyn (opens in new tab), with whom he loves spending precious quality time (opens in new tab) at the beach. He's also got a sense of humor about the whole Bachelorette (opens in new tab) thing (opens in new tab).
Tenley Molzahn dodged a huge bullet (opens in new tab) when she was sent home by Jake Pavelka during the 14th season of The Bachelor, but it probably didn't feel like it at the time. Still, she mustered up the coverage to give love another chance, joining other Bachelor alums on both Bachelor Pad and Bachelor in Paradise.
Fortunately, like most of the franchise's contestants, Molzahn was able to find love in the real world. She married (opens in new tab) Taylor Leopold in a gorgeous backyard ceremony that was even featured in Martha Stewart Weddings (opens in new tab). As Mrs. Leopold, Molzahn is working in the fitness industry and runs a cool wellness blog called Tenley's Sweet and Free Life (opens in new tab).
Landscaper Chris Lambton tried to use his green thumb to cultivate romance with bachelorette Ali Fedotowsky, but no dice; he ultimately lost out to Roberto Martinez. Fortunately for Lambton, love within Bachelor Nation (opens in new tab) was still in the cards. He found his soulmate in Peyton Wright, who appeared on season 10 of The Bachelor (Andrew Baldwin's season). The couple exchanged vows in May 2012 and have since welcomed two children together.
In addition to starting a family together, Lambton and Wright teamed up to star on the HGTV landscaping series Going Yard. Lambton is kind of a big deal in the home improvement world, even hosting his own show Yard Crashers (opens in new tab) on the DIY Network.
On Brad Womack's (second!) quest to find love, O'Brien ended up getting dumped for Emily Maynard—and boy, did she take it hard, both on the finale and on After the Final Rose. But after that, she said (opens in new tab) she and Womack had gotten to a "good place" and that she was dating fellow Seattle resident Jeff Razore. She also modeled for Sports Illustrated (opens in new tab) as part of a Bachelor swimsuit edition.
Fast forward: She married Razore and got pregnant (opens in new tab) in 2013; She has a (private) Instagram (opens in new tab) that shows her still married with two kids, but has kept a very low profile ever since.
Ben...oh, Ben. When we first happened upon the winemaker in Ashley Herbert's season of The Bachelorette, we were taken by his soft-spoken nature, his quiet but earnest energy, and his floppy hair. Herbert ended up choosing J.P. Rosenbaum (they're still married to this day (opens in new tab) and have two lil carbon copies of themselves), and Flajnik found himself the next bachelor.
Unfortunately, Flajnik's time in the lead role was less happily ever after and more WTF; he proposed to season 16 villain Courtney "I Didn't Come Here to Make Friends" (opens in new tab) Robertson twice in 2012, yet the couple split for good that same year.
Besides being romantically linked with Kris Jenner (opens in new tab) (yeah, we know), Flajnik has mostly been working on expanding his businesses and golfing (opens in new tab), which he really, really enjoys.
Coming in second place to Courtney on Ben Flajnik's season was Washington native Lindzi Cox, who took the whole thing pretty well...considering. She even skipped out on the After the Final Rose special, missing out on Flajnik and Robertson's dramatic re-engagement. "I don’t really have anything pressing I need to say to Ben," she told EW (opens in new tab) after the show. "If down the road I do, I can have a chance later.”
Fast forward to 2019, and if her Instagram (opens in new tab) is any indication, Cox is living her best life. The self-proclaimed "best day ever enthusiast" can be seen road-tripping around the country, riding horses, and generally having...the best day ever.
Arie Luyendyk, Jr.
Where do we even begin with this guy? The son of two-time Indianapolis 500 winner Arie Luyendyk (and an accomplished race car driver himself), Luyendyk was a notable public figure in many households long before he joined 29 other men in the fight for Emily Maynard's heart. He didn't win the final rose, but like a true competitor, he dusted himself off and tried again, becoming the franchise's 22nd bachelor in 2018.
As The Bachelor, Luyendyk got a lot of criticism for the way his season played out; initially, he proposed marriage to Becca Kufrin, but after some time to think, he changed his mind and broke up with her—on camera (opens in new tab).
Arie Luyendyk, Jr., may have been Emily Maynard's second pick, but Sean Lowe wasn't far behind, and the second-runner up got his shot at love in the 17th season of The Bachelor in 2013. The Jesus-loving gentlemen found his soulmate in Catherine Giudici, leaving Lindsay Yenter out in the cold after a tearful (mostly on his end) (opens in new tab) breakup.
Yenter bounced back shortly after her heartbreak, finding her perfect match (opens in new tab) in Karl Swanson; the couple got married and now have two little ones together. She even credits Lowe for helping her see the kind of man that she needed to be with. "After doing the whole show, it made me realize I need to find guys who I want as a husband and as a father instead of going after the bad boy," she said (opens in new tab) shortly after getting engaged. "And I really, really think that Sean has opened up my eyes to that, and I'm so thankful for that."
When Desiree Hartsock broke things off with Drew Kenney during what he hoped would be their best date ever, Bachelor Nation was crushed. Granted, Hartsock made the best choice for herself—she and winner Chris Siegfried are still married with two children—but Kenney was a really nice guy.
Fortunately for him, Kenney ended up meeting and falling in love with Amy Long, a Bachelor alumna herself (she was a contestant on Juan Pablo's season). The couple turned lemons into lemonade and have been dating (opens in new tab) ever since.
Kenney hasn't just been lucky at love since getting sent home; his career is also on the up and up. He's starred in two films, including one with veteran actor Danny Glover (opens in new tab), and even picked up modeling along the way.
If you're anything like me, you've probably blocked Juan Pablo Galavis's nightmare season of The Bachelor out of your mind, and for good reason—he was nothing short of terrible. But, if you can for a moment, think back to his runner-up, Clare Crawley. Juan Pablo pretty much slut-shamed her for their MUTUAL possible ocean hookup towards the end of the season, enraging Crawley to the point that she had no choice but to tear into him at the final rose ceremony (opens in new tab). Needless to say, she didn't get the ring.
Crawley connected with Canadian angel Benoit Beausejour-Savard on The Bachelor: Winter Games, and the couple quickly fell in love and got engaged. However, things went south even faster, and they called it quits (opens in new tab) just after a month.
Nonetheless, Crawley is still doing her thing; fans of the 37-year-old can keep up with her latest moves on Instagram (opens in new tab).
In the immortal words of Aaliyah, "If at first you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again." Nick Viall really took that to heart, appearing on both Andi Dorfman and Kaitlyn Bristowe's seasons of The Bachelorette. After being the first runner-up twice, ABC took pity on Viall and gave him the chance to do the selecting as the star of The Bachelor—and we all know how that turned out. He proposed to Canadian teacher Vanessa Grimaldi (which led to Bachelor Nation's sweetheart Rachel Lindsay becoming the next bachelorette!), but the couple quickly parted ways due to irreconcilable differences.
Now, Viall is one of the most famous faces in the franchise. He started a very popular podcast called The Viall Files (opens in new tab), he's a noted Instagram influencer (opens in new tab), and he's been in a number of films. (Also, he's maybe dating Rachel Bilson? Unclear.) Maybe coming in second isn't always a bad thing.
Tilley just missed out on taking home that final rose with Chris Soules, but ever since, she's been a part of the Bachelorverse dating world in a big way. She once kissed (opens in new tab) Dean Unglert at a party, saying it wasn't romantic (...okay?) and turned down Eric Bigger when he asked her out. She also dated Robert Graham from Becca's season but is now apparently in a relationship with a non-franchise alum. She says she wants to keep things private...and, yea, I can totally see that.
Ben Higgins is beloved by Bachelor fandom, but even the most loyal of fans have had a hard time forgiving him for confessing his love for both Lauren Bushnell and JoJo Fletcher but kicking the latter to the curb during the final rose ceremony (maybe it was that weird letter (opens in new tab) from her ex during hometowns that set him off?). The consensus was unanimous: Fletcher deserved better.
And better was what she got. The Dallas-born real estate developer met her match during her run as The Bachelorette when she gave her final rose to former college and professional football quarterback Jordan Rodgers in 2016. It's been three years, and the couple is still going strong, serving us couple goals (opens in new tab) daily. Can't wait for the wedding in 2020!
Former competitive swimmer and living Ken doll Robby Hayes made a splash on JoJo Fletcher's season of The Bachelorette, but his real impact came when he joined Bachelor in Paradise. While in Mexico, he connected with fellow castoff Amanda Stanton, and the pair tried to make it work in the real world. The exes' short-lived relationship evolved into a full-on internet beef (opens in new tab) that had fans clutching their pearls. Yikes. It looks like he's been single (opens in new tab) since May 2019.
No one could quite understand why Nick Viall didn't give Raven Gates his final rose, but when it was all said and done, it was definitely for the best—for her. Besides finding a lifelong group of best friends from her time on The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise, Gates also found a lifetime partner in Adam Gottschalk, a contestant from bachelorette Rachel Lindsay's season. The couple got engaged (opens in new tab) in May 2019 and are currently planning their big day, which is certain to include some of your favorite faces from Bachelor Nation!
It's physically impossible to talk about Rachel Lindsay without talking about Peter Kraus. Besides being, IMO, one of the most handsome people to ever grace this franchise, Kraus is also one of its most controversial contestants. He had a strong connection with Rachel from the jump, but Kraus's decision not to propose despite being head over heels in love with our bachelorette led to what may be the saddest Bachelor/ette breakup (opens in new tab)we've ever seen. Like, cry-your-falsies-off sad.
But you can't keep a good man down. Kraus is back home in his hometown of Madison, Wisconsin, looking and being the perfect man that he is. He's been hard at work expanding his fitness empire (opens in new tab) and basically being the best (doggy) dad (opens in new tab) ever. *swoon*
When all was said and done, Luyendyk's runner-up Lauren Burnham eventually won the grand prize of her man's heart. The two reunited during the season finale, with Luyendyk getting down on one knee to pop the question (opens in new tab) in front of the live audience (who was understandably less than pleased by the turn of events).
In November 2018, Burnham and Luyendyk announced that they were expecting their first child together, and the couple tied the knot in January 2019 in a ceremony officiated by Chris Harrison. Their daughter Alessi (opens in new tab) was born in May 2019, and they say they want more kids.
Fan favorite Blake Horstmann was devastated to not be Kufrin's final choice on the 22nd season of The Bachelorette, but he got a second chance on season six of Bachelor in Paradise (opens in new tab). Unfortunately, he then proceeded to eliminate all possible good will from fans. He got into a love...pentagon (?) with Tayshia Adams, Hannah Godwin (both on this list), Caelynn Miller-Keyes, and Kristina Schulman, before being sent home alone. He is, no shock to anyone, still single.
Colton Underwood's season of The Bachelor was memorable for a number of reasons (that fence jump!! (opens in new tab)), but the most shocking thing about his season was the fact that he broke the unspoken rules of the franchise by cutting two women at once to be with his final choice, Cassie Randolph. Hannah Godwin was unceremoniously dumped in Portugal and had a super relatable reaction (opens in new tab) to the turn of events.
Today, the Bachelor alumna is busy creating digital content via Instagram and modeling with major agencies. She's also one half of the cutest Bachelor in Paradise couples of all time after she got engaged to fellow contestant Dylan Barbour during the season six finale. They are so adorable (opens in new tab), it's almost too perfect.
Ohhhh Tyler. So much going on with this one. Cameron was the g-d rock of Hannah Brown's tumultuous season, praising her and making her feel safe (opens in new tab) both on the show and off. Fans were crushed when Brown chose Jed Wyatt (the "musician" who definitely had a girlfriend) over Cameron. Fans (me) are still mad about it, TBH.
After Brown rightly kicked Wyatt to the curb and asked Cameron out for drinks, we all cheered. But then after a brief hookup, Cameron went on to date Gigi Hadid and Stassie Karanikolaou, leaving Hannah-Tyler shippers (also me) in the dust. So Cameron's doing great post-show, but his Bachelorette legacy is very, very messy.
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