You tend to invest your identity in relationships, and expect to find it there. This is just one of those things that's inherent in the nature of Virgo a little more than it's true for others. There are two parts to this equation: the investing, and the finding. Is that working out for you? Are you finding yourself, or losing yourself? Your solar chart is suggesting that it's time to place emphasis on your healing process, regardless of your relationship status. First and foremost, that means paying attention to yourself and to your needs, as apart from anything anyone expects of you. You have work to do that does not even vaguely involve partnerships or relationships: it's yours and yours alone. When you acknowledge this, how do you feel? When you set out to do that work, how do you feel? You might also notice how others treat you, right then.
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