Rich Santos
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Memories From My Weekend At The Beach
My college buddies and I spent it wasting our minds and not thinking about anything important.
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Guy's Weekend At The Beach
Just wanted to let you know I'm having some adventures at Dewey Beach Delaware this weekend for the Labor Day holiday. It's our annual guy's weekend-- all my buddies from college: no girls allowed unless we meet them during the trip. We are obviously not that hardcore. A couple of us are married and one of us has a live-in girlfriend. And, aside from a few random adventures, we usually strike out. We also never make it to the actual beach-- we play wiffle ball and grill all day. It's amazing. It's important for us to get this time together, but as more of us get serious with girlfriends and wives, it's tougher to get together.
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What's Your Least Favorite Look On A Guy?
My old roommate once bought a leather jacket that was sold out of the trunk of some guy's car in the streets of New York. It was an "Armani" jacket. But upon closer examination, the tag read: "Armandi".
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What Turns You On?
I don't want anyone seeing me naked. It dawned on me that my turn ons are on the "conservative" side.
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6 Things You Can Learn from a Guy's Apartment
I picked out some elements from my apartment that cried "bachelor" like a cabinet full of Ramen Noodles.
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The Scent Of A Man
Common sense tells us that someone who smells bad is limiting their chances. But, this is not smell as we know it; it has more to do with the body's "natural" odors than perfume or cologne.
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7 Areas a Guy Considers Manscaping
We asked guys to come clean about their (sometimes dirty) beauty routines. Men Confess: His Secret Pre-Date Primping Habits
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Are You Ever Really Sure Of Your Relationship?
Before I learned how my mind worked, negative thoughts used to torment me. Some of the common thoughts were: (While driving) "I could totally swerve into the oncoming traffic right now and kill myself." "What separates me from a serial killer? What if I grew up to be one?" "Why do I keep getting headaches? Is it an aneurysm?" ...and so on. Why did I have these thoughts? A shrink explained that everyone gets negative thoughts, I just tended to hold on to them and ruminate over them because I had Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I felt liberated when I learned that everyone gets "negative" thoughts. The doctor urged me to remember: "a thought is just a thought, it's not an action. Thoughts come and go, and you don't act on every thought." And he was right. I learned to accept the negative thoughts, and all the stress and internal mental analysis and hypochondria they caused melted away. Considering negative thoughts are common in all of us, it stands to reason that both participants in committed relationships second guess their significant other and the relationship on a monthly, weekly, and even daily basis. When do these second thoughts turn into action? Here are some "second thought" moments I remember:
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3 Dating Red Flags You Can't Ignore
I recently met up with a cute friend I hadn't seen in a while. Like any red-blooded American male (sadly), I considered the hookup chances.
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I Love You So Much That...I Hate You?
Why do people in relationships argue so much? Maybe, when you care about someone, you want to prove yourself to them.
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Who's Responsible for a Love Triangle?
Adultery, unfortunately, touches a lot of our lives. My dad had a girlfriend while married to my mom when I was 8 and it destroyed our family for a while. To my parents' credit, they were able to get through it and eventually got back ...
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My Celebrity Hot List
I like to think I am not obsessed with celebs; the only reason I permit myself to read Us Weekly is because my sister's name is on the address label every month...
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What Makes A Guy Creepy?
I hear women call guys "creepy" for so many reasons: "He likes the Jonas Brothers." Creepy. "He wore a cable knit sweater." Creepy.
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What Would You Sacrifice for Love?
Not that I keep up on Britney Spears headlines, but I couldn't help but notice that she's considering converting to Judaism because her boyfriend is Jewish. She's welcome to do that if she'd like, but it got me wondering about limits...
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Do You Have a Good Dating Mindset?
It's difficult to remain upbeat and positive when you have a string of bad dates, or boring, unattractive people. When the bad experiences pile up you get numb to the whole dating thing.
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6 Tips for Setting Someone Up
Some friends of mine decided that their friend, Katie, was "perfect" for me. They launched a campaign to get us together. The tagline was: "We have someone for you. She's just like you." This wasn't the best...
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Does Aggressiveness Ever Pay?
Let me tell you how my friend's recent date one-upped a vampire for creepiness.
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Does Love Conqure All?
I think love is like the Roman Empire: it conquers a lot, but not all.
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4 Things That Got Me In The Mood To Date
My desire for independence, fear of commitment, fear of success, and the vast array of people and experiences in this huge world are all factors that contribute to me not being in the mood to date 90% of the time. But the other day, I realized I got into a "dating mood" because I did a few things outside of my comfort zone (and it had nothing to do with watching a romantic comedy). Over the past week, the following actions put me in the mood to date: I Took A Walk, Alone "Alone" means: no friends, no iPod, and kept my phone in my pocket. This allowed me to hear the sounds of the city; surprisingly, there were a lot of pleasant dating sounds. The weather was nice, and the sun was going down. I heard snippets of conversations amongst outdoor diners, and the clanking of glasses and plates creating a dissonant but inspiring "restaurant sound" symphony. I saw the dating world clearly on my walk, and I wanted to be a part of it.
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5 Ways To Make Me Miss You
The other side of enjoying time with your significant other is missing them when they are not around.
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Fun At The Urologist
The things we go through to some day have babies... My recent experience may compare with the gyno visit for a woman with its awkward moments. I had chemo to treat testicular cancer, which may have damaged my fertility. Since then, the "rent" at the sperm bank has increased and my parents (they were paying that rent) asked me to get counted to verify the need for sperm banking. For those of you who are wondering, yes: they do have porn at the "lab". When I banked my sperm the first time, the lab had the most amazing spectrum of porn I've ever seen: from light Victoria's Secret...all the way to pervish stuff like Martian Spacemen in Bunny Suits Invade the Sorority House. My experience at the NYC lab was rough: Some guy came out of the masturbation room before me, and no one sanitized or anything. I hope he had good aim! The room was tiny with just a loveseat and TV/VCR, and there were only "a few videos in the drawer" according to the doctor who set me up, along with a random Penthouse on the table by the loveseat. I tried to pick the side of the loveseat that the previous guy may not have sat on. I am a much wiser man since my last lab visit. This time, I exercised my BYOP (bring your own porn) rights-I brought my laptop. I haven't been able to use personal memory or movies for inspiration. I'm completely digital. Midway through my session, I heard an alarm. What was this? Had I stayed in the room too long? Was I committing some kind of violation? Did I win a prize?
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Fun At The Urologist II: Do I Need A Sex Therapist?
Like any painful experience, the Urology ordeal taught me about myself and I was even "prescribed" something. Here is what I learned: Oh, The Person I Could Be The awkward moments started immediately after my appointments were set. It started with my father warning me: "No ejaculation for 3-5 days before your appointment." First of all, I haven't talked sex with my parents since that defining moment I realized that Robert Plant was actually mimicking an orgasm during Led Zeppelin's "Whole Lotta Love" while it played in the car the summer before 8th grade. Innocence was out the window from that point onward.
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