How to Make Your Bikini Wax Less Painful, According to Hair Removal Experts

I’m going to call it like it is: Brazilian waxes can be really painful—especially if it’s your first time around. Understandably, ripping hot wax off the sensitive skin down there isn’t necessarily going to be a pleasant experience. But just like shaving creams, oils, and high-end razors meant to make shaving more comfortable and less of a hassle, I’m happy to report that there are a few ways to make your bikini wax less painful—which in turn goes a long way to ensure your appointment goes smoothly.

From growing your pubic hair weeks in advance to last-minute dietary changes, several tiny lifestyle tweaks can seriously reduce your pain. Plus, there are numerous products that you can use to make at-home maintenance easier and, therefore, make your monthly wax appointments feel like a breeze. For example, did you know you should be exfoliating before and after your waxes? And that there are chemical exfoliants specifically created to be used in your most sensitive areas?

So, while shaving, laser hair removal, and epilating are all good grooming options, I strongly suggest anyone considering a bikini wax keep reading. We tapped Melanie Coba, waxing expert at European Wax Center, Samantha Garlow, wax specialist at Daphne Studio, and Marta Camkiran, esthetician at Haven Spa, to get the down low on how to make bikini waxes hurt a little less.

How to Prepare for a Bikini Wax

Make Sure You're Hairy Enough

Believe it or not, the pre-wax process is as important as after-care to ensure a seamless, easy experience. There are a few key steps to follow before you see your esthetician. "It’s important to make sure your hair is long enough," Coba explains. "You want it about the length of a grain of rice. There's no need to trim it if you think your hair is too long—your wax specialist will trim it if needed." Don't use a trimmer alone; you don't want to cut the hair too short.

Moisturize and Exfoliate 

"Dry hair and dry skin make it easier for your hair to break when removed," says Coba. "To get the smoothest and long-lasting results, the skin and hair should be healthy and moisture-rich. The best way to prepare is not to shave, and to exfoliate and moisturize routinely." Not sure what to use? Consider one of the best body lotions or body oils.

Camkiran emphasizes that exfoliating is essential right before your wax, too. "A day before your wax, I recommended doing a body scrub to remove dead skin cells because hair can get stuck and become ingrown hair."

How to Reduce Pain During Your Bikini Wax

Consider a Pain Medicine

"It’s good to take a pain medicine two hours prior to waxing," Camkiran suggests for people who have a low pain threshold. "This will help reduce skin inflammation and help with any soreness." Garlow agrees, adding that Advil or Ibuprofen can be helpful for pain relief and to calm the skin down after the service.

Avoid Caffeine

Dear fellow Starbucks Rewards members, we know it's hard, but try to avoid caffeine a few hours before your wax. Garlow says caffeine can trigger even more nerves and elevate your heart rate, increasing blood flow and, therefore, higher pain sensitivity.

Apply Numbing Cream 

"Products that contain lidocaine are helpful because they will temporarily numb the area and prevent pain," Garlow says. If you're looking for an OTC numbing product, consider the Pomada Dragon Pain Numbing Cream. For something a bit more heavy-duty, touch base with your doctor.

Take a Deep Breath

"The number one thing you can do is relax, as much as you can, and make sure you communicate with your wax specialist," Coba advises. "Feel free to ask questions and share any preferences so they can best serve you."

Hold the Skin Tight 

During the service, your esthetician should hold the skin taut to help with the pain. "If done by the right esthetician, your wax shouldn't take longer than 30 minutes," Coba adds.

How to Reduce Pain After Your Bikini Wax

Avoid Exercise 

"You shouldn't exercise or wear sweaty clothes the same day," Coba recommends. Skin is so fresh after a wax, and the pores are still open and susceptible to bacteria, so it's best to take it easy. Camkiran also notes that friction from working out at the gym could cause future irritation on the skin.

Skip Self Tanner 

"If you use spray tan or apply self tanner, wait until the day after your wax appointment," Coba says. Using a self-tanner right after a wax can cause stinging, burning, and irritation. If you can wait it out 24 hours, your tan will thank you. Freshly waxed areas absorb pigment better, so your skin will look smoother, and color will last longer when you do it the day after.

Put Down the Tweezers 

While it can be tempting to pluck away rogue hairs that didn't get snatched up by the wax, it's better just to let them sit until your next appointment. "Tweezing usually does more harm than good, as guests often tear their skin up trying to get the hair out, which creates scarring and hyperpigmentation," Coba explains. If you do need to remove a hair or ingrown, use one of the best tweezers.

Get on a Regular Waxing Schedule 

"Waxing regularly every four weeks really helps because when you wax too early or too late, the hair is more susceptible to breaking under the surface of the skin," Coba explains. When hair breaks, it can more easily become ingrown.

Camkiran recommends not waxing five days before and five days after your period because the body is more sensitive during this time.

Avoid Hot and Salty Water 

Wait a few hours before hopping into a hot shower to avoid any reaction," Coba says. Hot water can cause stinging or burning with sensitive skin, so it's best to let any irritation settle before rinsing your body. "After you’ve been waxing a while, your skin will be used to it and much less sensitive to this sort of thing."

You should also "avoid soaking in a tub or jacuzzi, saunas, or anything with high heat," says Garlow, noting that it can allow bacteria to enter the area. Saltwater from the beach or chlorine from the pool will irritate the skin, so you should wait at least three days before booking an oceanside getaway.

Don't Irritate the Area 

Avoid touching your waxed skin to the best of your ability. This will only clog pores and transfer the bacteria that’s on your hands onto your newly waxed skin. You should also avoid skin-to-skin contact and steer clear of tight clothing. "After a wax, wearing loose clothing is important to let your skin breathe," Garlow says.

Exfoliate Daily

After waiting a full 24 hours post-wax, exfoliate every single day. It'll go a long way to help prevent ingrown hairs. "Salicylic acid is a great ingredient to look for in a product for exfoliation," says Garlow. "Vitamin E and aloe are great options for moisturizing the skin following a treatment." Pay extra attention to creased areas, like the bikini line, where hairs are more likely to struggle to break through the skin due to friction.

Do Waxes Get Less Painful Over Time?

The real answer: everyone's body is different. "Waxing is not one size fits all," Coba says. "Pain during waxing generally depends on your mindset and general tolerance for discomfort." Coba's rule of thumb is to try a Brazilian wax twice—the second wax is meant to be more comfortable, and the results are smoother and last longer.

With time, you'll also know what to expect, and the shock factor will wear down. "Getting regular waxes will significantly reduce the amount of hair coming back," Camkiran says. "In a few months, 40 percent of your hair will not return, which will also make the process more comfortable."

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Why Trust Marie Claire

Samantha Holender and Ariel Baker have a combined two decades of experience in the beauty industry and have both received bikini waxes, bringing their first-hand knowledge and recommendations to the piece. They also spoke with three waxing experts to get professional insight to the story.

Marie Claire is also an expert in hair removal, writing content around laser hair removal, epilating, shaving, waxing, tweezing, and more.

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