Former Palace Press Secretary Reveals Who Made the Decision for Princess Diana to "Have a Royal Funeral"—And One Choice He Deemed "Outrageous"

Dickie Arbiter wrote about the "overwhelming" experience of planning the late royal's funeral in his memoir.

Men carrying Princess Diana's coffin with Prince Harry, Prince William, King Charles, Earl Spencer and Prince Philip facing it with their backs to the camera
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The anniversary of Princess Diana's death is approaching on August 31, and 28 years ago, one man was witness to the behind-the-scenes planning that went into her funeral. In his memoir On Duty With The Queen, royal journalist Dickie Arbiter, who previously worked as a Buckingham Palace press secretary and had known Diana for 17 years, wrote about the "surreal" days following the royal's tragic death at age 36.

Describing being woken up to a call that Diana and her boyfriend Dodi Al-Fayed had been involved in a fatal car crash in Paris, Arbiter said that despite his responsibilities, he "could hardly bear to watch" the news coverage. "I was horrified, and gripped by an overwhelming sense of loss," he wrote.

Arbiter described the early hours of the morning when palace officials realized there were no funeral plans in place for the princess, with Arbiter writing, "she was still so young that perhaps it didn't seem like a priority." However, another problem quickly presented itself. Because she was divorced from the future King Charles, Diana "was, in theory, no longer considered a member of the Royal Family," Arbiter added.

Charles Spencer, Prince William, Prince Harry and Prince Charles at Princess Diana's funeral

Charles Spencer (far left) walked with his nephews through the streets of London behind his sister's coffin.

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Princess Diana's casket being carried by soldiers

Princess Diana's casket was topped with flowers and a card reading "Mummy."

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Earl Spencer and Prince William outside Westminster Abbey at Princess Diana's funeral

Earl Spencer is pictured outside Westminster Abbey with Prince William at Princess Diana's funeral.

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With confusion abounding, he explained that "the number one priority was deciding exactly what type of funeral Diana should have." It turns out this decision was not down to Queen Elizabeth, but to Diana's brother, Charles, Earl Spencer. Writing that because Diana was "a private citizen," Arbiter explained that she was "entitled to" a funeral "without any input from the Royal Household."

"By 10 a.m. we had a verdict from the Earl," he wrote. "Though technically not a royal matter, he had decided that as the mother of a future king, and a globally popular public figure, his sister should have a royal funeral."

Arbiter also shared his candid thoughts on Earl Spencer's "impassioned speech" at the funeral, during which Spencer condemned the press for "hunting" his sister. "She needed no royal title to generate her brand of magic," Spencer also said during the eulogy, referring to how her "HRH" title was taken away when she divorced Prince Charles in 1996.

The former palace press secretary called the "outrageous" speech a "verbal attack on both the media, and very pointedly, the Royal Family," writing that he thought the move "felt unforgivable on many fronts." Arbiter added, "It was neither the time nor the place for such action, especially given that Diana's children were present."

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Kristin Contino
Senior Royal and Celebrity Editor

Kristin Contino is Marie Claire's Senior Royal and Celebrity editor. She's been covering royalty since 2018—including major moments such as the Platinum Jubilee, Queen Elizabeth II’s death and King Charles III's coronation—and places a particular focus on the British Royal Family's style and what it means.

Prior to working at Marie Claire, she wrote about celebrity and royal fashion at Page Six Style and covered royalty from around the world as chief reporter at Royal Central. Kristin has provided expert commentary for outlets including the BBC, Sky News, US Weekly, the Today Show and many others.

Kristin is also the published author of two novels, “The Legacy of Us” and “A House Full of Windsor.” She's passionate about travel, history, horses, and learning everything she can about her favorite city in the world, London.