The Queen and Prince Philip Made a Secret Pact Not to Mourn Each Other for "Too Long," a Royal Expert Says

According to royal columnist Richard Kay, Queen Elizabeth made a secret pact with Prince Philip not to mourn him for too long after he died.

hampshire, england undated in this image, made available november 18, 2007, hm the queen elizabeth ii and prince philip, the duke of edinburgh re visit broadlands, to mark their diamond wedding anniversary on november 20 the royals spent their wedding night at broadlands in hampshire in november 1947, the former home of prince philips uncle, earl mountbatten photo by tim grahamgetty images
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  • In a series of recent engagements, Queen Elizabeth II has clearly been in good spirits, a stark contrast to the mourning royal watchers saw earlier this year after the death of her husband, Prince Philip.
  • According to royal reporter Richard Kay, the Queen's happiness shows that she's honoring a promise she and Philip made years ago about how either of them should handle the death of the other.
  • "The two had often discussed how each would cope without the other at their side, and it boiled down to this: whoever was left should mourn, but not for too long, then enjoy what remained of their life," Kay wrote in a recent column for the Daily Mail. 

Queen Elizabeth is honoring a promise she made to her late husband, Prince Philip, by making a point to enjoy herself in his absence.

According to Daily Mail royal columnist Richard Kay, the fact that the Queen has seemed to be in such good spirits during her recent public appearances the direct result of a promise she and Philip made to each other years ago.

"The two had often discussed how each would cope without the other at their side, and it boiled down to this: whoever was left should mourn, but not for too long, then enjoy what remained of their life," he wrote in a recent column.

The Queen has also reportedly been very happy to see COVID restrictions ease, as this has allowed her to attend more in-person engagements again, including the G7 summit in Cornwall and a modified Trooping the Colour celebration. As hard as lockdown reportedly was for the Queen, however, Kay points out that it also allowed her to spend more quality time with Philip in the months leading up to his death than she otherwise would have.

"COVID changed everything but, crucially, it brought an unexpected dividend in that she and Philip were together for the last 13 months of his life," he wrote.

One of the events the Queen has reportedly been most excited to get to attend since COVID restrictions have eased is the Royal Ascot. The event is a well-known favorite of the monarch's, who has had a lifelong passion for horses.

"It has all helped to perk her up no end," a racing friend said of the impact attending the final day of the Royal Ascot had on the Queen. "She misses Prince Philip dreadfully but she was prepared for his passing. Caring deeply for someone whose health is in decline is always exhausting and I am sure it was no different for Her Majesty."

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Kayleigh Roberts is a freelance writer and editor with more than 10 years of professional experience. Her byline has appeared in Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, ELLE, Harper’s Bazaar, The Atlantic, Allure, Entertainment Weekly, MTV, Bustle, Refinery29, Girls’ Life Magazine, Just Jared, and Tiger Beat, among other publications. She's a graduate of the Medill School of Journalism at Northwestern University.