What's The Best Way To Approach A Girl?

It takes a certain amount of luck, the perfect storm, to

meet a person at a party or at a bar. I've laid out the different ways

to "meet" a girl when out:

Mutual People Watching

I like to pick out fun activities to do with a girl when I

first meet her. Together, we can

critique outfits, laugh at antics, and make observations. It's a great

way to feel out a person's sense

of humor, and even get a feel for their intellect. But I have to watch

out for being too

critical of others or coming off as condescending.

Hating a Place Together

This is taken from the "perfect pick up line" I once wrote

about. I can get into someone's corner

by immediately bonding with them over how lame a place is when meeting

them. How miserable is it when the music is too loud,

or when the bar is too hot? Commiserating is a great way to build

kinship. In fact, when something sucks and you all

realize it together, you end up forming a tighter bond than when

everything is

perfect around you-the "in the trenches" together mentality.

Buying A Drink

This one is as old as time. Buying a drink can come off as cheesy, but

it's hard for a girl to be

upset with someone who buys her a drink. Personally, I've never bought

a stranger a drink. But, I have gone out with girls I like in

groups and just bought that particular girl drinks all night. Most of

the time this just ends up being $200

spent, with no date or makeout at the end. This one is a little risky

too because if you buy her a drink, she might

take it and then not give you the time of day afterward. With the

economy the way it is, I need to

make sure all investments make



My old no-fail line used to be telling a girl I liked her

outfit. Sometimes I just give in and say

that a girl is cute and go from there. But over

complimenting-especially in a drunk haze-has not really gotten

me anywhere. There has got to be a

middle ground so it is charming but not over done.

Group Breakup

The group

breakup is an intimidating proposition, but I can

achieve that rare air of confidence if I actually do it. It's risky

because sometimes girls are out

and don't want to deal with guys. If I

can get over being outnumbered, I can charm up the girl and her friends

one by

one. And, once her friends think I'm

fun, then you look that much more attractive. But going in on my own to

break up a group of intimidating girls is

easier said than done.


Sidling requires me to tap the magician in me. To sidle, I

have to simply magically appear

next to a girl. This is most easily done

at the bar. I kind of saunter up to the

bar to order your drink, right next to a cute girl, and then I lock

eyes as you

wait for the bartender. Maybe you can

even combo this with "hating the place together":

"Geeze, it takes forever to get a drink in this place," and

then top that off with buying her a drink. Magical!

Thrown Together

This happens in crowded spaces and on the dance floor. You are

out in the crowd and somehow the

current of the crowd just tosses you together. Once you're tossed

together, you might as well start talking to one

another. The only issue at this point is

making sure the tides of the crowd don't pull you apart-anchor


The most important things to achieve after knocking down

that wall of the approach are:

1. Smile

2. Eye Contact

3. Hook and Great Conversation

But I wonder if I should be approaching girls in the light

of day-like randomly in cafes or at the park or in the street. I've

never had the guts to do that. Perhaps I just need alcohol to loosen me up. But maybe it makes it

that much more

affective like a horror movie: "wow, this bad guy is even killing

people during

the day!"

But, do you enjoy being approached in broad daylight

anywhere, or would you prefer being hit on in bars or at parties?

What's the most memorable approach a guy ever

made toward you? And, which approach outlined

above would you like a guy to do to you most? Do you have any advice

for me on

making an approach-especially the kind in broad daylight?

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