The 16 Best Sex Toys for Beginners

If you don't start somewhere, you'll never know how to finish.

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No matter how sexually experienced a person is, it's important to remember that everyone has been a beginner at some point. So whether you're masturbating, having partnered sex, using a sex toy (like a vibrator or dildo), or trying a new sex act for the first time, there's absolutely no reason to be ashamed. On the contrary, there are a number of sex toys made specifically for beginners that are easy to use, easy to clean, and that can help you understand and explore your preferences. 

But how do you go about finding a sex toy if you've never shopped for one before? Rachel Wright, a licensed psychotherapist and sexpert for Zumio, breaks down the process of getting started into a few simple steps: "Number one," she begins, "start with lube. Lube is the best first sex toy because it enhances every sexual experience we have — whether that's with our hands, other body parts, or a toy." And if you've never bought or used lube before, check out our guide to the best lubes and how to use them. 

"Then," continues Wright, "once you find a lube you like, think about the physical sensations you like and find a toy that can do them in a faster/longer/more intense/slightly different way than a human can." 

She adds that you don't need to "reinvent the wheel" or push yourself to try something new and adventurous. "When you're first starting out looking for a sex toy, don't reinvent the wheel. Start with what you know you like! Sex toys are meant to do things humans can't — so think of what you like with a human and find a sex toy that mimics that." 

For instance, if you dislike penetration, you're probably better off with a bullet vibrator or wand vibrator than a dildo, g-spot vibrator, or rabbit vibrator. Meanwhile, if you know you like anal stimulation, an anal vibrator or anal toy in general (and a bottle of lube!) may be best for you. And if you've never been with another person sexually before, gently explore your body with your fingers and with the help of a lube that's right for you, and pay attention to what you like and what you fantasize about.

Finally, don't ever be ashamed of feeling aroused, wanting sex, or masturbating. Owning and using a sex toy isn't shameful. In fact, it's a powerful way of exercising your sexual agency and taking pleasure into your own hands (pun intended)!

"There is so much stigma and misinformation about sex toys out there," admits Wright. "Some people think that they're a replacement for another person (they are not), that they'll make your bits go numb (they do not), and that they're somehow bad or deviant for wanting to use one (you're not!). Sex toys are meant to enhance your pleasure — think of them as pleasure aids." 

If you still have questions about what sex toys are and how to use them, check out our guides on every type of vibrator, how to use each type of vibrator, how to use a dildo, and our sexual wellness section in general. And read on for some of the best, easiest-to-use toys for beginners, whether you're looking to explore clitoral stimulation, penetration, anal play, kink, partner play, or beyond.

Deals on Sex Toys for Beginners

Luna Rechargeable Vibrator Wand $35 $22 | Amazon

Luna Rechargeable Vibrator Wand <a href="" data-link-merchant="Amazon US"">$35 $22 | Amazon

This quiet wand vibrator has a flexible head, is quiet, and is one of the top-selling sex toys on Amazon. And now, it's more affordable than ever before.

b-Vibe Snug Plug 1 Ultra-Comfortable 55-Gram Weighted Silicone Butt Plug $50 $46 | Amazon

b-Vibe Snug Plug 1 Ultra-Comfortable 55-Gram Weighted Silicone Butt Plug <a href="" data-link-merchant="Amazon US"">$50 $46 | Amazon

This weighted butt plug is wearable, waterproof, easy to clean, and perfect for those interested in anal training or in trying out anal stimulation for the first time. 

LELO Tiani 3 $127 $118 | Amazon

LELO Tiani 3 <a href="" data-link-merchant="Amazon US"">$127 $118 | Amazon

This remote-controlled sex toy is perfect for partner play, whether you're long-distance or just a few inches away from each other.

Best Beginner Toys for Clitoral Stimulation

Did you know that less than 20 percent of people with vaginas achieve orgasm from penetrative sex alone? This means that, for most, people, clitoral stimulation is absolutely essential. Below, the best expert- and reviewer-approved toys for exploring this highly sensitive part of the body

Best Beginner Toys for Vaginal Penetration

Although, as previously mentioned, many people with vaginas need direct clitoral stimulation of some sort in order to achieve orgasm, many still enjoy and are even able to orgasm from penetration. Whether you're interested in g-spot vibrators, dildos, or life-like phallic replicas, scroll on for some of the best beginner penetrative toys available online right now. 

Best Anal Toys for Beginners

Anal stimulation can be extremely pleasurable for both men and women. Frye-Nekrasova reminds us, though, that when experimenting with anal play, be sure to use lots of lube (the rectum, unlike the vagina, does not self-lubricate), start small, and always use a toy that is meant for anal stimulation. The rectum is a lot like a vacuum, and will suck up anything that doesn't have a flared base, which can result in serious injury. And finally, to avoid putting yourself at risk of an infection, clean your toys and never put something on your clitoris or into your vagina after it's been in your rectum!

Best Beginner Sex Toys for Partner Play

Introducing sex toys into the bedroom with your partner is a fantastic way of spicing up your relationship or your sex life in general, but it can be a nerve-wracking experience, especially if it's a new practice for one or both of you. For detailed advice on how to broach the topic with your partner and find the best toy for you, check out our full guide on sex toys for partner play as well as our guide of vibrating panties. Otherwise, see below for some of the best and easiest to use toys to get started with, whether you're looking for a basic couples' vibrator, a remote toy, or you're interested in exploring kink

For more, visit our Sexual Wellness section, where we unpack topics around consent, kink, sex toys, and more so you can have your safest and very best sexperiences yet.

Meet the Experts

Rachel Wright
Rachel Wright

Rachel Wright is a licensed psychotherapist with a Master's Degree in clinical psychology. She has experience as an educator, speaker, mental health coach, and relationship expert. She has been featured in a number of periodicals, created the  virtual workshop series What You Wish You Learned in School: Sex Ed, and has held group sessions and live shows around sex positivity and education. She is currently based in New York City and works as a sex expert for sexual wellness brand Zumio

Javay Frye-Nekrasova
Javay Frye-Nekrasova, MEd

Javay Frye-Nekrasova, MEd, is a sex educator, pleasure professional, and sex expert for Lovehoney. Specializing in pleasure, communication, and sex toys, she is passionate about making comprehensive sex education accessible for all and is in the process of earning a PhD in Human Sexuality from the California Institute of Integral Studies. Her research focuses on sex work, porn, as well as the relationship between the media and society's understanding of sexuality. She also provides sex education via YouTube and social media for her digital series, In Bed With a Millennial. You can find her on Instagram here: @MillennialSexpert.