"We were together for 10 years, married for four, were very quickly divorced, and are friends," the 32-year-old tells the magazine. "I'm still processing everything and figuring out where to go and what happened. [Marriage is] a tough business, and we gave it our best college try."
Lambert says she knows she has some "really bad, long, lonely nights ahead," but she's ready to face it head-on.
"I just want to live a life full of everything. Some of that might mean nights on my porch crying, drinking whiskey, and going, 'Man this sucks right now,'" she says. "But it's about living in the moment and feeling every tinge of pain, then waking up the next day and going, 'All right, I'm going to ride my ponies. I'm going to have a girls' night.' That's where I am. That's where I'm gonna live."
Her ex Shelton has already moved on to a very public relationship with his "Voice" co-star Gwen Stefani. She says you can save your #TeamMiranda support, though.
"We are real people with real lives and real s---t. We're both very honest," she says. "This is what it is now, and we're moving forward. We don't need all the opinions. We just need y'all to be supportive, and nobody pick a side—because there ain't a side."
Lambert is reportedly dating around casually, too. But don't expect wedding bells anytime soon.
"If I ever were to get married again — which is completely not on my radar at all right now — I feel like it's not about it being a step in life," she says. "It's not about a piece of paper or a diamond. It's the way you feel about somebody and the commitment in your heart."
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