7 Reasons to Become an Amateur Matchmaker

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If I do say so myself, I'm a fantastic yenta.

It all started my sophomore year of high school, when I broke up with my first boyfriend only to promptly suggest (in the very same phone call) that he might like my "little sister" — the cute freshman I'd been assigned to mentor for that year. They dated until she went off to college. My next meaningful success came when I introduced one of my co-workers at the other women's mag I worked at to one of my best friends from college, which led to a yearlong relationship. When I was quitting that magazine, I introduced my favorite co-worker to another good buddy from my undergrad days — and they spent two solid years together.

They are also plenty of set-ups that go nowhere — but I realize that I have to make many attempts before things will stick, and I'm fine with that.

So, in the last two weeks, I've set up a million people: After meeting one guy at a party, I connected a very impressive guy who used to work for Obama with a gorgeous woman I met after trying to buy her kitchen table through Craigslist. I hooked up one of my neighbors with a friend of my new pal Easy Walnut. I set Easy himself up with two girls I know. I put a very nice dude I know from the gym in touch with Bear Cumming's lovely ex-girlfriend.

I always go out of my way to set people up. Why?

1. I don't have the time to properly befriend every cool person I come across — and setting him or her up with a buddy of mine is one way to strengthen the social tie.

2. I'm into the whole idea of doing unto others as you'd have done to you — not that I'm religious, and not that I believe in karma. But it just seems like a very nice, very easy way to potentially make two people very happy. Even if it doesn't work out romantically, I am pretty confident — given my great taste in human beings — that no one will have anything but a pleasant evening. A friendship may even emerge. Best-case scenario, of course, is having another huge success on my hands.

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3. It's really hard for most of us to meet any new cool people once we get out of college. So when I come across a jewel of a person, why not share the wealth?

4. Being a good yenta can make Internet dating seem like less of a waste of time. More than once, I've set up an awesome dude I met through OkCupid or Nerve with friends of mine. And if you go into a date thinking, "Will he be good for me — or for one of my buddies?" it can help take the pressure off.

5. It's just kind of fun.

6. I enjoy being helpful.

7. People are very appreciative and even if they don't do anything concrete in return, I am sure you will have their eternal goodwill — which makes it easier to ask them for, say, career advice, if you need some, or for ice cubes if you run out while entertaining guests, or for a little help assembling that new bookshelf.

Tomorrow, I'll talk about how to be a good matchmaker. The suspense is killing you, I know.

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