We understand the importance of an quality sex tip: The key is to ultimately pleasure yourself, but while pleasing your guy in the process. So we took to the internet via Reddit and polled our male pals to get their straightforward advice. Read, practice, repeat.
The #1 Dating Rule
Many men aren't attracted to a woman if he knows [she's] planning on seeing other people in addition to him. Be mindful of this while on a date, even if you are currently shopping around. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Take a Walk
If you feel yourself getting upset, excuse yourself from the conversation, take a walk, and return when you're more level-headed. Men will be more receptive to your conversation when you're not agitated. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
First Date Sex?
No sex on the first date, if you ever want him to take you seriously. Period. via MC's male friends
Friendship First
Try to create a friendship with him before diving too deeply into the [relationship aspect]. Think of what friends normally do while hanging out and recreate elements of that on your dates. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Get Handsy!
Get handsy in bed, at the dinner table, in a movie, or walking down the street. It makes him feel good and helps him think he's doing something right. via MC's male friends
Hobbies & Interests
Make your life outside of your relationships a point of pride. Don't be afraid to share your interests, hobbies, and friends with your partner. If he's the right guy, he'll find that extremely attractive. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
Common Courtesy
Be cognizant of how you treat the waiters or patrons on a first date — for many men, that basic etiquette is their number one deal-breaker. via MC's male friends
Use "I" Statements
In order to deflect blame, use "I" statements. Example: "I feel like when you take multiple hours to respond to my texts, you are ignoring me and that makes me feel insignificant." via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Buy the Lingerie
Splurge on a piece of frilly, sexy lingerie. You'll feel insanely confident — and he won't be able to resist! via MC's male friends
Laugh Track
Laugh and have fun, when appropriate. It's just sex, after all! via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
Don't Blame Him
Do not outwardly blame your significant other. Doing so will make them defensive and give them more of a reason to raise their voice. Instead, be honest, polite, and calm about the subject you are trying to bring up. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
The Ex Threat
If you were close with an ex's family and remain in contact with them — even minimally — after a breakup, be prepared for that to be a major threat to any future suitors. Men don't like knowing they have difficult competition from the get-go. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Getting Back with an Ex
Spending time with your ex recently? Don't bring up the past until you know exactly how you feel [about your new guy]. It's unfair to demand that he tell you what his intentions are when you don't know your own. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
Slow Down
Moving too quickly towards heavy emotional dependence is a major red flag, not a sign of affection. Contain your clinginess for the first few dates. via MC's male friends
Communication Is Key
Communicate heavily during sex, and let him know what you like — watching a girl get turned on is amazing for a guy. via MC's male friends
Honesty At All Times
If you're using an online dating profile and looking for a real relationship, be utterly honest. Otherwise, you're going to find yourself trying to change for another person, which is lethal in any relationship. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Massage & Stimulate
Stimulate the perineum — the part beneath his testicles that gets hard when he has an erection. Pro tip: Massage that while you're giving him a blowjob. via MC's male friends
Men Love the Chase
We all know that men love "the chase," but men who are pursuing you like crazy after the first date aren't being sincere. Why? He doesn't have to care about boundaries with a woman he's only trying to sleep with. If he still shows interest after a few dates, that's another story. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
50 Things Men Want You to Know Right Now About Dating & Sex
Touch yourself in front of him. He likes knowing what gives you pleasure and most men will just love watching it. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Rules for Older Men
Pursuing an older gentleman? Contact them as you normally would during the day, giving them impression that you'd genuinely like to spend time together — and it's more than just a "booty call." via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Listen to Him
If it appears a man is irrationally irritated, it's his way of saying, "I want you to listen to me to help me feel better." As his significant other, it's your job to ask him how he's feeling. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
"I'm Fine"
The "I'm fine" placeholder drives both men and women crazy, and not in a good way. When a guy says "I'm fine," he's obviously upset, but trying to work through his own feelings internally. Once he figures that out, he'll talk. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Intimate Date Night
When it's your turn to plan a date, opt for something intimate and simple. Most men prefer an evening spent cooking at home instead of a sunset picnic. via MC's male friends
Know Yourself
You need to get to know yourself and learn about your needs. Only when you know yourself can you ask your partner to help you get what you want [in bed]. via Reddit
Friendzoning
If you find yourself "getting friendzoned" (i.e. falling for a guy who would rather watch the game with you than take you to dinner), keep the contact to a friendly minimum. If you're able to keep your composure around him, just be yourself, making sure that you keep the ball in his court. If he's interested, he will act on it. via MC's male friends
How to Spice It Up
If you're having consistent sex with your significant other but want to spice it up a bit, discuss how kinky to get with so you remain on the same page. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Just Ask Him
Your significant other has needs, too! Ask them what they are, so you can both be happy. via MC's male friends
Compromise
In a disagreement, be willing and ready to compromise on realistic requests. Each person needs to get their needs met. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
Talk Dirty
Don't be afraid to talk dirty. Guys love hearing how hot he makes you in the heat of the moment. via MC's male friends
Make Him Feel Wanted
Don't wait for your partner to always start sex. It's hot for a man to feel wanted and to know that you need it right now. via MC's male friends
Make Eye Contact
Make eye contact. It's a huge turn-on for a guy to watch a woman get aroused. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
Intensify the Climax
Tell him to hold off cumming until you give him permission, or see who loses control first. The anticipation will increase the intensity of a climax. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
The Best Teasing Tool Is...
Men love having their fingers sucked on — it's a consistently effective teasing tool. via MC's male friends
Just Make Out — Men Love It
Men really, really enjoy kissing. Don't assume that when a guy starts making out with you, he's just trying to progress it to sex as quickly as possible. via MC's male friends
Rejected?
Facing constant rejection? Keep trying, and don't wallow. In the meantime, keep yourself busy with fun, new activities to take your mind off of it — hit the gym to feel better about yourself, or delve into an old hobby you've long since retired. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Focus on Other Areas
While his testicles are an important component of his sexual desires, don't pay too much attention to them — a little goes a long way in this case. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)
Massage > Jackhammer
Don't be too aggressive with his penis — all men prefer a massage to a jackhammer. via MC's male friends
How to Become Exclusive
Women, be honest with yourself and say this when you're ready: "I'm having fun getting to know you, but I don't want to continue this relationship until we are exclusive." via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Get Animalistic
Scratch his back in the throes of the moment to release your insanely sexy, animalistic urges. via MC's male friends
"Returning the Favor"
Referring to a oral sex as "returning the favor" gives it a transactional value, and this expectation of getting something in return often doesn't end well. Only give a guy a blowjob if you're comfortable with it. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Moving On from Arguments
Leave the past in the past, where it belongs. Do not bring up old disagreements. via MC's male friends
Speak Up & Make Noise
During sex, don't be silent. Nothing kills a boner quite like a dead-fish. via MC's male friends
Go for the Quickie
Be spontaneous. Don't be afraid to attack and go for a quickie — anytime, anywhere — when it's not expected. Your boldness will be much appreciated. via MC's male friends
Forget Your Insecurities
If a guy is inside of you, he most likely finds you attractive, so there's no need to feel self-conscious about any body insecurities. via MC's male friends
LDR Lessons
Don't initiate a long distance relationship unless you've established very firm expectations first. If a man likes you enough, he'll find a way to make it work, regardless of the circumstances. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Be Forward
If you want to have sex with a guy again without worrying about being too forward, just go for it. Think: "Hey, I had fun with you the other night. We should do it again sometime." By not hinting about it, your intentions could be severely misunderstood. Chances are, he feels the same way and will be thankful you did the hard work for him. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"
Let Him Do His Thing
If a guy wants to go down on you, let him. He obviously thinks he's pretty good it or it turns him on to be down there, in either case, you should still let him. via MC's male friends
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