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50 Things Men Want You to Know Right Now About Dating & Sex

We took to the internet via Reddit and polled our male pals to get their straightforward answers.

By Maura Brannigan

Oct 10, 2013

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We understand the importance of an quality sex tip: The key is to ultimately pleasure yourself, but while pleasing your guy in the process. So we took to the internet via Reddit and polled our male pals to get their straightforward advice. Read, practice, repeat.

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The #1 Dating Rule

Many men aren't attracted to a woman if he knows [she's] planning on seeing other people in addition to him. Be mindful of this while on a date, even if you are currently shopping around. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Take a Walk

If you feel yourself getting upset, excuse yourself from the conversation, take a walk, and return when you're more level-headed. Men will be more receptive to your conversation when you're not agitated. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)

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First Date Sex?

No sex on the first date, if you ever want him to take you seriously. Period. via MC's male friends

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Friendship First

Try to create a friendship with him before diving too deeply into the [relationship aspect]. Think of what friends normally do while hanging out and recreate elements of that on your dates. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Get Handsy!

Get handsy in bed, at the dinner table, in a movie, or walking down the street. It makes him feel good and helps him think he's doing something right. via MC's male friends

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Hobbies & Interests

Make your life outside of your relationships a point of pride. Don't be afraid to share your interests, hobbies, and friends with your partner. If he's the right guy, he'll find that extremely attractive. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)

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Common Courtesy

Be cognizant of how you treat the waiters or patrons on a first date — for many men, that basic etiquette is their number one deal-breaker. via MC's male friends

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Use "I" Statements

In order to deflect blame, use "I" statements. Example: "I feel like when you take multiple hours to respond to my texts, you are ignoring me and that makes me feel insignificant." via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Buy the Lingerie

Splurge on a piece of frilly, sexy lingerie. You'll feel insanely confident — and he won't be able to resist! via MC's male friends

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Laugh Track

Laugh and have fun, when appropriate. It's just sex, after all! via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)

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Don't Blame Him

Do not outwardly blame your significant other. Doing so will make them defensive and give them more of a reason to raise their voice. Instead, be honest, polite, and calm about the subject you are trying to bring up. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)

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The Ex Threat

If you were close with an ex's family and remain in contact with them — even minimally — after a breakup, be prepared for that to be a major threat to any future suitors. Men don't like knowing they have difficult competition from the get-go. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Getting Back with an Ex

Spending time with your ex recently? Don't bring up the past until you know exactly how you feel [about your new guy]. It's unfair to demand that he tell you what his intentions are when you don't know your own. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)

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Slow Down

Moving too quickly towards heavy emotional dependence is a major red flag, not a sign of affection. Contain your clinginess for the first few dates. via MC's male friends

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Communication Is Key

Communicate heavily during sex, and let him know what you like — watching a girl get turned on is amazing for a guy. via MC's male friends

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Honesty At All Times

If you're using an online dating profile and looking for a real relationship, be utterly honest. Otherwise, you're going to find yourself trying to change for another person, which is lethal in any relationship. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Massage & Stimulate

Stimulate the perineum — the part beneath his testicles that gets hard when he has an erection. Pro tip: Massage that while you're giving him a blowjob. via MC's male friends

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Men Love the Chase

We all know that men love "the chase," but men who are pursuing you like crazy after the first date aren't being sincere. Why? He doesn't have to care about boundaries with a woman he's only trying to sleep with. If he still shows interest after a few dates, that's another story. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)

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50 Things Men Want You to Know Right Now About Dating & Sex

Touch yourself in front of him. He likes knowing what gives you pleasure and most men will just love watching it. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Rules for Older Men

Pursuing an older gentleman? Contact them as you normally would during the day, giving them impression that you'd genuinely like to spend time together — and it's more than just a "booty call." via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Listen to Him

If it appears a man is irrationally irritated, it's his way of saying, "I want you to listen to me to help me feel better." As his significant other, it's your job to ask him how he's feeling. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)

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"I'm Fine"

The "I'm fine" placeholder drives both men and women crazy, and not in a good way. When a guy says "I'm fine," he's obviously upset, but trying to work through his own feelings internally. Once he figures that out, he'll talk. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Intimate Date Night

When it's your turn to plan a date, opt for something intimate and simple. Most men prefer an evening spent cooking at home instead of a sunset picnic. via MC's male friends

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Know Yourself

You need to get to know yourself and learn about your needs. Only when you know yourself can you ask your partner to help you get what you want [in bed]. via Reddit

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Friendzoning

If you find yourself "getting friendzoned" (i.e. falling for a guy who would rather watch the game with you than take you to dinner), keep the contact to a friendly minimum. If you're able to keep your composure around him, just be yourself, making sure that you keep the ball in his court. If he's interested, he will act on it. via MC's male friends

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How to Spice It Up

If you're having consistent sex with your significant other but want to spice it up a bit, discuss how kinky to get with so you remain on the same page. via Reddit, "What is something every girl should know about relationships?"

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Just Ask Him

Your significant other has needs, too! Ask them what they are, so you can both be happy. via MC's male friends

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Compromise

In a disagreement, be willing and ready to compromise on realistic requests. Each person needs to get their needs met. via Reddit, "AskMen" (Relationships)