11 Brutally Honest Answers from a Female Sex Addict's Reddit AMA

"I have to actively stop myself from having affairs. I fail a lot."

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Sex addiction is often (mistakenly) seen as a primarily male condition. This is just one of the many misconceptions about sex addicts. Reddit user Throwawaylemon7's 'Ask Me Anything' thread tackles some of those misconceptions and explains what it's really like to be a married female sex addict.

1. How does it affect your day to day life?

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"I have to actively stop myself from having affairs. I fail a lot. If I don’t have sex at least three times a day, and get myself off every hour or so, I’m a huge c*nt. I’m late to everything because I need to cum before I go anywhere."

2. What's been your lowest point?

"I had sex with three separate men [in] one day. None of them my husband. I guess that’s pretty low."

3. Have you tried to seek help?

"Not yet. So far I’m doing okay on the affair part. 32 days since I’ve actually fucked anyone that’s not my husband. I’m still sexting and whatnot, but I’m working on that. Seriously though, maybe at some point."

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4. What does your husband think of the situation?

"All he knows is that he gets to fuck a lot. Outside of that, he’s blissfully unaware of what I do."

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5. Do you love your husband? Aren't you afraid he will find out?

"I love him in my own way. If he finds out, he finds out. I’m fully willing to accept the consequences of my actions. However, I’ve been cheating (on every SO but one) for roughly 15 years. I’ve never once been caught. I’m a good liar, and I only pick people that I know won’t tattle. They also know if they tell anyone they don’t get [sex] anymore, so it’s never been an issue before."

6. How do you not get caught?

"Now I tend to stay away from the ones with girlfriends/wives (unless I reeeeallyyy want to fuck them). It’s harder to hide from two people. And going to someone’s house is cheaper than hotels."

7. Do you feel relief or shame after [cheating]?

"I feel euphoric. Cumming is the best feeling in the world. I’ve never really felt guilty about it."

8. What do you look for in someone to have sex with?

"I’m into hot men. Age has never been an issue. Most of them are actually my friends."

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9. Why did you get married?

"Seemed like a good idea at the time. To be fair, I hadn’t yet admitted to myself I was a sex addict when I got married."

10. What do you get out of sex?

"I love everything about it. I love the sexual tension and foreplay with a new person. I love being touched and touching them. There are some I play vanilla with, but I’m a switch. I have subs and doms. I have days that I want the intensity of a quickie, and days when I want five hours of slow, sweaty passion. There are days when I want to be punished and days when I want to make someone my bitch. There are days when I’ll spend two hours delaying a guy cumming and days where all I want is to make him cum until he can’t go anymore. I love the variety, and the differences between every man. Orgasms are the best feeling I can imagine, but every second leading up to it is amazing. Some days it’ll take me hours to get here, but it’s worth it every time."

11. Have you had many three-ways?

"I prefer MMF, with the right guys. Not a huge fan of FFM. I’m bisexual, but I don’t like to share men with other women. I haven't had a threesome in a long while because I keep all my guys separate. I don’t hook up with women on the side at all. They always have too much trouble separating feeling from fucking."

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