50% of Women Prefer Drunken Sex. (Huh? Have They Tried It Sober?)

Lovelies:

Yesterday, I happened to notice (via a Lemondrop article) that a new study out of the UK found that half of the women questioned by researchers said they preferred sex while under the influence of alcohol because it helped them to lose their inhibitions and be more adventurous. Half! The report indicates that the main reason women like to drink before they make out is because doing so helps them suppress their feelings of insecurity about their bodies.

More surprising findings from the study (originally mentioned in London's Daily Mail):

-Four out of ten women have "always" been a bit tipsy when they have slept with a partner for the first time.

-75 per cent of women said they liked to drink before getting into bed with their husband or boyfriend.

-6 per cent of women have never had sex while sober.

The Daily Mail article concludes with a quote from one of the lead researchers, who says: "The fact alcohol plays an integral role in their love lives shows that women are looking for a boost in self-esteem when it comes to their bedroom antics. While many women claim they only drink before sex because it is part of the dating process, a large percentage will actually refuse to get between the sheets without a bit of [booze]. In doing so, many women will be losing self control — and this is when drunken one-night stands are more likely to occur."

She's got a point there. And though I don't think there's anything wrong with one-night stands per se, it's no fun to get so wasted that you do something you regret so much that it makes you feel miserable for a few days. Even more than that, though, sober sex — once you get the hang of it — is VASTLY more pleasurable than drunken sex, in my experience.

Why? Because you do have control over it. I don't mean control in the sense of power or dominance. Simply that you can make your body move in the ways you want it to move. You can think about what's going on. It's easier to give and receive, to ask and to listen, simply because you're way more cognizant of everything that's going on.

Sure, it's scary the first few times that you do it without being the least little bit tipsy. But it's so worth getting used to, if you ask me. One of the other benefits is that it really does help you come to terms with your feelings about your body ... and to recognize that you're plenty sexy enough.

It seems a bit sad to me that there are apparently SOOO many women who feel uncomfortable both with their bods and having sex that they feel the need to lubricate themselves with liquor before they get it on!

Ladies and gents out there: Can you please weigh in with your experiences of drunken sex vs. sober sex?

xxx

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