When I read about a new report from the Queensland Institute of Technology in Australia that looked at women and discovered that one-tenth of them frequently or almost always felt sad right after sex, I thought, "Hmm, if we're talking about casual sex, I'm surprised the number wasn't higher!"
But lead researcher Robert Schweitzer was looking at a range of college women, not necessarily those who'd, for example, only had one-night stands. He was also asking about their feelings in the moments just afterwards (and not, for instance, the next day, by which time regret or disappointment may have set in). Yet he found that one-third of the women he interviewed experienced negative sensations on the heels of sex sometimes.
Do you find it surprising that so many women reported so much unhappiness after participating in an activity that is supposed to make us all so delighted and blissful? Or, given your personal experiences, would you have thought the numbers would be higher? Schweitzer, at least, was surprised.
"Under normal circumstances the resolution phase of sexual activity, or period just after sex, elicits sensations of well-being, along with psychological and physical relaxation," he said. And he indicated, in a story on LiveScience, that the women who felt down didn't necessarily feel disconnected from their partners — which is to say that a lack of love or intimacy didn't seem to explain his findings.
Instead, as he told LiveScience, "other factors, such as biological predisposition, may be more important."
Schweitzer told me that there didn't seem to be a correlation between any kind of sexual dysfunction (or lack of an orgasm) and his findings.
What do you all think this study indicates?